Is it normal that my bf thinks being 45 min from each other is long distance

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Whenever we get into arguments he said "it's just hard" that we are 45 minutes apart and long distance is really hard for him. He's acting like I live 5 hours away or something, it's a 45 minute drive.

Neither of us have cars though so we have to take the bus which takes 2 hours. We are both 19 and in college.

Yeah 45 minutes is pretty far apart 8
45 minutes is nothing! He's just not that into you 7
45 minutes is nothing! He's exaggerating 5
It's understandable since neither of you have cars 17
If he really cared, the 45 minutes wouldn't matter to him 14
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  • howaminotmyself
    10 years ago

    So really, it isn't a 45 minute distance. It's two hours. Keep things in perspective. Just because it is possible doesn't mean it's practical. I can fly somewhere in 30 minutes that may take three hours by car. But I never actually fly there.

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    • dom180
      10 years ago

      And they've got to go all the way back afterwards too, so the whole journey is four hours! Four hours on the bus is neither cheap nor comfortable. Definitely normal for the OP's boyfriend not to be prepared to do that.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals
    10 years ago

    With today's oil prices it's oceans apart lol.

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  • plum6
    10 years ago

    I have always had GFs that were easy to reach, but since about six months I have been dating a girl that lives 1,5 hours away from me. We see eachother every weekend and keep in touch over skype and whatsapp during the week and its going great. It really all depends on how much effort you are welling to put into the relationship. I dont wanna be negative, but honestly if he doesnt feel like making the effort of traveling 45 minutes to see you his priorities obviously seem to be somewhere else.

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  • NormalIsOverratedBeANinja
    10 years ago

    A "long-distance relationship" really isn't determined by how far apart you live, but how you usually communicate. If you primarily Skype and email and what have you, that's long-distance, but if you're attempting to see each other in person regularly, it's probably not.

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  • Erik963
    10 years ago

    Are you the same bitch that created "My boyfriend doesn't want to spend night with me" Shit ?

    Give up he hates you.

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  • gummy_jr
    10 years ago

    You better hope your relationship doesn't last only 45 minutes.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago

    Yeah, I consider that long distance even with a car. My boyfriend used to live about 30 miles away before we had cars and we'd only see one another once, maybe twice, a month. The only thing that really bothered me about it was when he said he would come see me and... not.

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  • davesumba
    10 years ago

    That's like an hour drive. Yo pussy better be xtra special if you expect someone to drive 2+ hours a day for you. That's not only time, but money.

    And long distance has nothing to do with "well if you love each other enough"..bullshit. Long distance is a joke of desperate people.

    *edit* ... I didn't even read the part where neither of you have cars and it's a 2 hour bus ride... fuck that shit. Get over yourself and move on.

    Don't try to make your boyfriend into a bad guy, you are indeed in a long distance relationship, and those suck and are very very hard on people. My last gf couldn't even do summers/winters 2 hours apart while we weren't at college together. We never even argued until then.

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  • Isabella80s
    10 years ago

    It's really not that far. It might just mean you have to organise your time a bit more.

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