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We've been together for two years and he has never ever given me flowers even though I have told him before that I absolutely love that. It makes me sad every time I think about it. I'm not materialistic or anything even remotely close that, but flowers are the one thing I absolutely love getting from a guy I love. Am I overreacting?
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... that you should feel sad. That's terrible. :-(
My boyfriend has never given me flowers too but I don't care because it's not in our culture.
Aww. I love flowers too. Pff, screw him. Buy them for yourself and then don't screw him.
Sounds like he is a jerk. Any guy who can't do a little thing like bringing his girl flowers, especially when he knows that she would appreciate them, isn't worth the time. Dump the loser.
Make up a story some body fictional gave you the the flowers. You buy yourself and you take home and any time he is around tell him how nice they are and how much yoy appreciate them. Keep making comments till h
Have him buy you some flowers if you want them bad enough. Not being normal isn't always a bad thing though. :) It's the culture that we live in that scrutinizes what's normal and what's not. Buy him flowers. Maybe he'll get the hint. :)
Maybe he's waiting for that perfect moment. Like when he proposes, or on you anniversary or something. It'll definitely be more special if he makes you wait for it
Your boyfriend is a real douchebag and it's not ok for him to ignore your wants and needs.
All this idiot has to do is bring you some flowers a couple times a year to make you happy and he doesn't do it?
Girl you got options here:
1. Tell him you need a break(up) from him and you want to start dating other guys.
He'll ask why :
Tell him because he isn't thoughtful or considerate of your needs and you don't know if you can be happy with someone like that and you want to date other guys who are more thoughtful of you.
2. You can play games with him making him jealous giving him hints of what he's not doing correctly.
Start ignoring his texts/calls for a few days or a week. If he asks you what's up just be evasive and say you aren't feeling well, you're tired, you want to be alone to relax, etc. When he says "I'll talk to you later honey, I love you, bye." Just say "OK. BYE." then hang up but don't reciprocate. Be distant and kind of non-caring like *whatever*.
THEN when you know he's finally coming over and spends time with you (like watching a movie) secretly have flowers delivered to yourself from 'Jim' / some guy at work or you 'met' somewhere. When they get delivered in front of him from this 'other guy' you should get really excited about the flowers and ignore him for a few minutes smelling them, smiling, getting a vase for them, reading the cute card, etc.
If he cares for you he'll fucking freak out that some other guy is scoring huge points with you and he'll try harder to keep you and appreciate you.
I hate this kind of shit and normally I'd never advise someone to be dishonest but this guy sounds like a douchebag and he needs a wakeup call to appreciate you and pay attention to your needs.
He may go ballistic and demand you tell him who this other guys is etc.
You can always just tell him it was some guy you met the other day 'wherever' and you hung out with him and he came over / or you know him from work and he dropped you off cause you had car trouble/whatever, etc. You need some reason the guy knows your address which is how he knew where to send the flowers.
No matter what you do NEVER tell him you sent the flowers yourself.
I know, I know... I'm pretty amazing :)
Shhh... don't tell anyone ;)
The little things are over-rated. Flowers are nice but are they really worth ending a two-year relationship for like some people are suggesting? Concentrate on the important stuff, because you can't have every little thing.
It's not in some people's nature to be the giver of flowers. That's okay. What you can do is try to accept that or work around it without making your wants plain as day. Get into gardening. Ask him to help you with your garden. As the two of you work, it can make you bond and bring you closer together. He might even become comfortable with giving flowers.
Now, there are other things to consider. 1. He might be allergic towards flowers. 2. He might not be able to afford it. 3. Etc.
Sometimes if I want something I give it to my boyfriend and it's just as satisfying as him giving me what I want. One Valentines Day I decorated his truck with flowers, rose petals, and two bottles of wine even though he got me nothing because he couldn't. I've never cared much about getting things. Often when people give me things I'm more disappointed than pleased, so I'd rather just get myself what I want.... Maybe he's afraid of disappointing you with the wrong flowers.
I HATE THAT...when someone doesn't do something so easy and OBVIOUS!
He's probably not much of a man and just a weak selfish little boy inside. There's someone better out there for you.
This is one of the times when I just have to say you are wrong. The gift giving holidays are birthdays and the time of celebrations.
Yes, it's nice when someone gets something for their partner, but it should not be expected. Women are not princesses that men should have to empty their wallets for, and if that is something a woman expects, then they are the ones not worth the man, not the other way around.
I personally hate women that think men should be buying them things, saying they are less of a man for not doing what women want, as if women get to dictate what makes a man a man (they don't), especially when they think they can say a man is less of a man for not doing what a woman wants him to do.
Here is a video that I very much consider you watching. It's insightful and entertaining to watch:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQ7wT4CUprQ
I'm not a fan of golddiggers either as a matter of fact I once supported a guy for two years myself. But OP has been with this person for a long time and she's shared with him that receiving flowers is something she appreciates and enjoys so at least from what she's posted I don't think it's some blind expectation but perhaps rather something he's chosen to ignore. I don't know if OP is a princess or not but I'm certainly not a foofy lala girl myself. In fact I have given flowers to guys almost as much as I've received them.
As far as emptying wallets goes a single red rose is not a big investment in the least.
Now I don't know for sure that this guy is less of a man compared to other guys which is why I said"probably."
I'm sure there's more to OP's relationship issues than just flowers. Her issue in this post is probably just the tip of the proverbial iceberg.
**Reports tommythecat to authorities for making online threats**Kicks tommythecat directly in the groin**Runs away to blow load in public bathroom**
Hahaha!!! Not if I get you first!
*hands Tommy a Toxic Shock Syndrome infected penile tampon*
Damn Kitty, you be on your period!
What exactly do you buy for your partner that makes you deserving of him doing the same to you?