Is it normal that my 36 year old boyfriend has a 20 year old female friend?

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We've been together for 4 months and he has a 20 year old female friend he talks to a lot.
They met at work, she has a boyfriend and a child.
They text, talk on the phone etc etc everyday.

When i asked him if i could see his conversation with her, he flipped out and he said there is nothing going on between them and i am just being paranoid.
He says that if he lets me see his phone i would be invading his privacy.

He literally threw a fit when i asked to see his phone.

Is this normal? Should i be suspicious?

It's normal, trust him. 8
Don't trust him, he's cheating!! 42
You're being paranoid, let him have his privacy. 17
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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    They're probably just friends. It's okay to be somewhat worried, but a relationship can't thrive off of worry. You have to be more trusting! You probably also hurt his feelings that you didn't trust him. Also, most people are extremely touchy when it comes to invasion of their privacy.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    He seems very defensive, you asked to see a conversation and he went straight to the point that nothing was happening. He has to be hiding something. If he wasn't, he wouldn't have fliped out and not show you the conversation and told you nothing was happening.

    I would be very suspicious if I were you.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    She's massaging his ego so he's probably texting her a load of filthy suggestions and she's giggling in response. If that's his level of maturity, bin this @sshole!

    You should be able to look at or answer his phone if he has nothing to hide. Invading his privacy is just his excuse for being deceitful.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    "When i asked him if i could see his conversation with her, "

    Why do you need to see it?

    I've been with my BF for five years and wouldn't do that to him.

    if you feel you need to snoop then you've already decided he's guilty, regardless of the truth.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    you should sex him

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  • gigi2982
    12 years ago

    Thank you all for the answers you guys have been really helpful.

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  • Bandicoot
    12 years ago

    If he takes his phone to the bathroom, something's going on that shouldn't be.

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  • tiffunny5
    12 years ago

    Did he meet her before or after you guys started dating ?
    If after, there is NO reason for him to get Any girls Number, unless it's Strictly for work and "work talk" was the only talk/text between them. If this was the case, Im sure he wouldn't mind you reading any messages. Obviously This is not the case, something more is being text to one other.
    4 months into the relationship ?
    Get out!

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    • gigi2982
      12 years ago

      Well yes we've been going out for 4 months and we were even planning on moving in together later on this year.

      We get along really well, we talk to eachother and we are best friends.

      But just the fact that he talks to this girl a lot, she is constantly texting him and sometimes when we are together and she starts texting him he turns off his phone or tells her he is with me...it's kind of making me suspicious.

      She is 20 years old and they worked together and to me it seemed weird that he would be friends with someone that young, he has told me that there is nothing between them but the way he reacted the other day when i asked to see his conversation gave me doubts.

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      • tiffunny5
        12 years ago

        I would feel the same way you do. My husband is your df age.
        20 year old girl ? Ugh! I dont know what to say :/
        Not good.

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