Is it normal that i would want something more than a relationship full of sex?

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A friend and I will see a girl and he will say "hey she's pretty hot I would f**k the shit out of her." Then I say yeah I guess but I don't find her that attractive. Then I get told my standards are too high. Well I am not much for just looks alone and I like more beautiful or cute girls over hot or sexy ones. I say I am not interested in a purely bf-gf f**king relationdhip. I want a relationship where I can love and cuddle with someone. Don't get me wrong I have this super human sex drive at times but I would rather make love not f**k. Over the past two years I have become come to grasp this idea of love whether it be a true sense of love or not but this is how I feel.

I have established that I am a hopless romantic. I am often looked at oddly because of the people I am genuinely attracted to or my views on these matters. I have only found a couple people I feel this way about. These would be a couple fictional characters then there is my teacher. My teacher isn't anything special in terms of looks. She is cute but not a WOW shes cute woman. She's got this FLAT butt and I am typically not one for cleavage. In fact I typically couldn't care less about cleavage but there is just something about hers. Maybe its when she does show cleavage its very little.

I am 18
Is it normal that I feel this way about relationships for my age?

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  • Demendes
    10 years ago

    I also want relationships to be that way, sincere, and just plain love and bond.

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    You are a nice guy, nothing wrong with that, just a bit rare these days. I think love and sex should be inextricably woven together...

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  • dom180
    10 years ago

    Pretty much any normal relationship has more than just sex in it. I've never seen anything I'd call a "proper relationship" where they did nothing but have sex without even a hint of post-sex snuggling, much less any actual affection for each other. They're really just friends with benefits if all they do is have sex.

    Relationships are really fulfilling and can change you a lot for the better even once they finish, although the trade off is that no matter how good or bad a relationship is it can be emotionally crippling in its bad moments and it removes you from other options. Random sex is a different story - very little is lost since there isn't a great deal of emotional investment, and very little is gained for the same reason. I think most people would prefer a proper relationship with someone who they really liked as opposed to random sex, it just depends on their standards for the relationship and whether they're attainable.

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    • peterr
      10 years ago

      You are absolutely right.

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  • Anime7
    10 years ago

    Forget the age, I feel that it doesn't matter how old you are. I feel like you're normal. Not everyone who is young thinks about having meaningless sex as opposed to an actual relationship. In some ways I am like you and I know other people who are similar as well. Honestly I think your views are pretty good ones and I think a lot of people feel the same. I mean sex is sex, but like with someone you actually care about, it's better (so I would think). It's all about the connections you make with people. I mean that hot girl that you're friend was talking about doing all night, where's the connection? I mean when you wake up in the morning she probably won't be there anymore. And its right back to feeling alone again; I mean granted there are people in this world who sleep with anyone just because they love sex and don't want to be tied down. But if you can actually establish a good connection with someone, emotionally, not just physically, then you know that when you wake up that person will still be there in your arms. And for some people that's just better than waking up to an empty bedside.

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  • handsignals
    10 years ago

    i ain't never been in love, don't know what it is, I only know when someone wants me...

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