Is it normal that i would cheat if he couldn't find out
What you don't know can't hurt you.
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Jweezee
No matter many how many times I see it the complete lack of dignity still amazes me. It doesn't fucking matter if he knows. You know! You have absolutely no conscience? No internal moral compass? You don't take issue with the fact you'd be betraying one of the most critical parts of a relationship...trust? There is something seriously absent in your mentality if you can't see the importance of living a dignified life. I mean you don't ever look in the mirror and say "wow, I'm a shitty person?"
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Jweezee
Morality is a product of evolution. There's plenty of information on the web to back that up if you're so inclined. Unless of course you side with the religious nuts and their blind followers you admire so much that would claim that it is divinely originated. You better inform the gibbons, albatrosses, swans, bald eagles, beavers, owls, and octopods that they have this whole reproduction thing fucked up and they're not supposed to be monogamous. How unnatural of nature. But I guess you're right, I'm just an imbecile with a biology degree.
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Crusades_
Yes, cause naming a few species is such irrefutable proof that monogamy is a universally spread character trait. While in typical fashion ignoring the other millions of species who are not monogamous, including Bonobos, who are the most similar to humans.
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Jweezee
Humans are a "pair-bonding" species. While I'll grant you that we are not completely genetically programmed for monogamy we are certainty not sex machines rigged to copulate at every chance for proliferation of species. Free love is not the natural state of humanity. If you belive that it is you are flat out wrong. Humans have strong male jealousy and mate guarding tendencies as well as female oxytocin release that drives bonding. You need to read up on the subject before you go spouting off some bullshit you know nothing about.
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thegypsysailor
Except in this day of common STD's. I'm certainly not a prude, but I'm not interested in getting some STD because my partner had a sex and neglected protection, in the heat of passion.
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(s)aint
Wow ... I PARTLY agree with you for once >.> I WILL however add that if you know that you are unable to be monogamous to a person that expects this STAY SINGLE or be with someone of the same mindset.
People are getting more and more open these days so to find someone willing of having an open relationship wouldn't be that hard.
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RoseIsabella
Keeping a secret like that just might tear you up inside. You never know, but it's not worth trying to find out. How would you like it if a guy cheated on you? Do you really want the kinda bad karma that lying and cheating sows?
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Fall_leaves
What you don't know hurts the most, you're going down a rocky road my friend. Cheating on your partner just because you can get away with it, shows your ugliness, be prepared to carry that weight because eventually you'll crack. Not only would you be cheating but you would be lying, you're not a very good person and whether you believe it or not others can see that.
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Pseodonihm
Even if he could never find out. It still means you do not love him as truly as he does you.
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thegypsysailor
There is absolutely no way to hide something like that for any length of time.
Your smell will change, your time will be unaccounted for and your habits will change. You may actually feel some guilt and that will manifest itself in anger, which will confuse your partner and affect your relationship.
If you cheat you will lose what you have. Obviously, it's not enough for you, so why not be honest and just leave the poor bastard, and hurt him as little as possible?Comment Hidden ( show ) -
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ginsters101
Wow, you really fired those guys up. And here's the thing - if he thinks he can 'get away' with it (and most men think they can), your man is going to cheat on you too.
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Avant-Garde
Terrible. You should leave him. He deserves someone with sounder morals.
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Derps
Why the fuck would you even think about that. You might as well blow up his house and frame his neighbour. If your that much of a slutty fucking bitch you'd cheat on someone then go fucking die
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Ellenna
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TareBear20
I am always faithful. I don't believe in cheating. I don't understand how someone could do something so hurtful to their significant other. It's disgusting.
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WhiteStallion
Won't the guilty conscious affect your relationship? Won't thinking about other guys affect the intensity and love of your bond?
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MistakeMaker
I had/ have the same mindset. But unlike u I have already done it. I had this mindset since I started having sex.
Its not worth it. Truly. Theres a good chance uve been with ur partner for a while and while the sex is ok.. its all too similar. And ur bored with it.
Find a way to spice it up. Faithfully.
While cheating sounds fun.. actually doing it isn't. Whether u like it or not, (if u have a conscience) there's the guilt factor. And it puts a big fluffy cloud over ur sun.Just break up with the guy.
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MistakeMaker
i did it cause i didnt give a fuck. i caught my bf talkin to his ex on fb abt what they wanted to do to eachother behind my back. he'd been sneaky.. and i wanted to. so i contacted my ex and fucked the shit outta him. i felt great. for a while anyway.
and no i didnt get "found out". eventually i just told him.
"hey i fucked my ex. so dump me."but he didnt. not sure why. i mean honestly. they say those who do it once will do it again. which i havent yet..
yea i know what you're thinkin "what a fucked up person."
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cupcake_wants
think of karma. if you do this, you're only sabotaging your own future happiness.. for a fling??
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Ellenna
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cupcake_wants
you think? so, you think you can harm as many people as possible and it won't matter?
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Ellenna
No, because it would matter to me as well as to the people I harmed. Are you seriously suggesting that only a belief in karma stops us from harming others? That's a very blinkered view.
I don't believe there's some well planned system in the universe whereby every cause has the appropriate effect eventually, nor do I believe in any imaginary friends in the sky who are running things.
We're here to look after each other as best we can, leave the world better than we found it and have some fun along the way, simple as that.
Have a look at the countries whose religions believe in karma: corruption, enslavement of women and children, bride prices, poverty, gang rape ......
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cupcake_wants
I don't believe in those such things in a framework of a commercialized religion. IMHO, most religions are just a way to control people and contain a lot of lies. I do, believe in karma, for one, I think that when you are evil, you are just not a happy person. Any evil person you see as being genuinely happy, that person is putting on some type of facade. At least in the long run. I have also had what's called a near death experience. If you scientifically interviewed the thousands of people worldwide and interview them and investigate the situation, you would notice some interesting things. For one, the explanation that it's the mind's way of inventing some fantasy world to avoid confronting death falls by the waste side because these people actually described seeing things done to them during death that they would have no other way of knowing. Second of all, all of these people that have had a NDE have had a profound change of their personality.
I bet you are wondering what this has to do with karma? Well, when you do study the NDEs of people that have had a bad experience, they were tormented by all the evil things they did in their lifetime. This would be commercialized religions' "hell". I don't see it as heaven or hell. I think after researching all the religions of the world a person might understand a larger perception.
At least for me, after my NDE and in my life I have arrived upon the conclusion that I am happiest when I'm a loving individual, and when I love I am loved back. I genuinely have a happy life and many people envy me and don't understand why or how I got it.
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Ellenna
Please give me a reference to these scientific studies of people who've had NDE's, or are you seriously suggesting I do research myself worldwide? Plenty of people have had NDE's, myself for one, and nothing unusual happened, except they nearly died but didn't. Many people who've "returned from the dead" state quite categorically that there's "nothing on the other side".
Have you personally researched all the religions of the world? I don't understand how researching made up beliefs has anything to do with the subject. You do realise that medical knowledge about when full death (as opposed to cessation of heart beat) actually occurs is changing as more research is done? It's fairly widely accepted that modern technology can now detect some brain activity in people who would once have been regarded as dead. That can actually be proved, as opposed to comforting but delusionary beliefs about afterlife and karma.
I object to these beliefs and will continue to do so because particularly in the case of karma, in countries where this is widely believed (eg India) there is widespread disparity in income, unhygienic living conditions for many, oppression of women .......... need I go on? The worst possible example of karma is the belief that children who are sexually abused CHOSE to be born into a situation where that would happen: I don't suppose by any chance that disgusting belief was made up by leaders of karma believing religions who institutionally abuse children? I was once told that all the Jews who perished in the Holocaust had chosen that fate - nothing to do with Hitler or the Nazi Party! This sort of crap leads to people passively accepting the most unjust and cruel oppression in the mistaken belief that it's their "karma" and their oppressers will suffer in a future life, ipso facto nothing needs to be done in this lifetime about oppression - pardon me while I find a large bucket to vomit in.
Of course we're all happier when we love and are loved in return: we are social creatures who need other people, but this doesn't prove the existence of an afterlife or of karma. It has been scientifically researched that people with satisfying social relationships have better life outcomes (eg, social isolation increases the risk of heart attack).
Finally, and I realise this will probably annoy you as much as it's annoyed other karma believers over the years: maybe it's all true, in which case it's my karma to question karma and yours to listen to me do so.
Happy New Year
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