Is it normal that i want to do this, but i wont?

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I have a crush on a fictional character and she is the only crush I have right now. But I think a lot of people are cute and I like a lot of people, in a non-romantic way. When this happens I have a huge urge to tell them, but I dont want them to take it the wrong way. This happens pretty often and it's getting awkward.

Recently I was at Mariano's and I saw a REALLY cute boy. I was like wow that boy is cute af. I only talked to him once. I have this huge urge to tell him I think he is cute, but I don't want him to get the wrong idea and think I have a crush on him or that I want to do something sexual with him. That's why I am not saying anything.

I also have a new friend who I really like. Whenever I talk to her I feel my heart skip a beat. I always get really excited when I see her. I wish I could tell her that, but she might think I have a crush on her. that would be really creepy because i am 19 and she is like 50 i think. i am probably not going to say anything.

In 2015 I had these kind of feelings towards someone and I did tell her. I told her I like her, I think she is pretty, and she has a beautiful voice. she responded pretty well. but maybe she thought i was hitting on her, and the reason she responded well is because she is attracted to me. oh well.

I have told guys I thought they were cute and they assumed I wanted to have sex with them, so yeah. I am a little hesitant to tell someone they are cute in a friendly way.

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago

    I don't get how the fictional friend fits in here.

    I've never had any issue complimenting another girl even when they know I'm bi. I get how guys get the wrong idea but thats just how alot of guys are so thats normal.

    My question is what problem are you actually trying to solve?

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  • AbnormallyAwesome
    7 years ago

    Yeah, that's difficult and I kinda know what you're talking about. I didn't think it was difficult for girls to tell other girls, though. I see that all the time like "OMG, you're so beautiful! You look sooo cute in that dress!" And things like that. So I thought the NoHomo hashtag was just a guy problem and girls generally wouldn't think that way.

    But when it comes to boys, I see why you struggle. When a girl tells me I'm cute I assume she's attracted to me. That is if she's around my age. If it's an older woman I just ascribe that to my boyish perfect-son-in-law charms ;)

    So if you want to tell a guy he's cute without it seeming sexual, maybe just don't. Or you could tall a whole group, like: "You guys are so cute"
    That makes it a lot less personal.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    7 years ago

    Well it's not hard to understand why it would be takeb that way but i know what you mean i've known people to be cute in a non sexual or romantic way but that's not the most common usage

    But, as someone who used to be called it a lot when i was more round faced if it was a girl calling me cute i'd actually jump straight to feeling patronised and friend-zoned

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