Is it normal that i want to distance myself from my boyfriend?

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My boyfriend of 6 months has just told me that his father wants him to come back to their hometown (country town 5 hours away from where we both live) and take over the family business. He has always been a perfect child (he is an amazing boyfriend too) and respect his parents a lot. He is also unhappy with his current job and lacks confidence and thinks he can't do better than his current job. I know he wants to go back and take over his dad's business. He was extremely upset last night. He last night asked me what I saw in the future for us. It's as if he wanted me to say I didn't see a future and didn't like him so as to make his decision of going back easier. I just said that I like him but that I don't want to influence his decision. Again, he was extremely upset the whole night.

I don't want to hold him back. He needs to do what he needs to do. But at the same time I feel like distancing myself from him. Both to make leaving easier on him, and for me too, as I do t want to fall for him any more than I already have...

As far as me moving there with him...I like my career, and in a small country town there would be no career for me.

We are both in our early 30s.

Is it normal I want to distance myself? Should I?

I really really like this amazing guy....

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  • pixie44
    8 years ago

    Idk what your career is but it wouldn't hurt to try and search for jobs in his hometown in your field and double check.
    And then again 6 months isn't that long to be dating and maybe giving yourself distance will make you realize you can live without him or you can't.

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  • derpyderp
    8 years ago

    Have you actually looked into the local job market in the area?

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I think the question should be more is he willing to stay with you. Does he HAVE to go back?

    Can't someone else run the business?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      We both like each other A LOT... But he is the kind of person who doesn't want to let his family down. He is the only reliable child and they are counting on him taking over. If they wanted someone else to run the business they would have to sell their home and property.... Because the business is on the property....

      He said that he is not sure what to do.... Indicating that he has a choice, but for some reason I think that he thinks he doesn't :(

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Simon and Garfunkel have a really cute song called 50 ways to leave your lover. You might find some good ideas in it.

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