Is it normal that i want to be anorexic?

Hello,
For a little over a year now, I've been fixated on the idea of becoming underweight. Even though I know they say it's not healthy, I've had this persistent feeling that it's the right weight for me. I can't emphasize enough that I couldn't care less whether anyone else finds it attractive. If I lost weight again (I lost 13 lbs eating 900 calories a day, then gained it all back), it would be for my personal taste and not anyone else's. Underweight celebrities are visually similar to my ideal, but not the origin. I have a long laundry list of bone and gaps I want to see, most of which aren't conventionally attractive.

Even now, I think about how it would be so much easier to become and stay underweight with an eating disorder. Plus, the idea of hunger and eating next to nothing seems inexplicably elegant to me. But I've done my research and I know that starving myself will slow my metabolism in the long run, and half of me still wants to be healthy. But the other half would rather just take all the awful side effects that come with EDNOS, because it would be worth it to me. Since gaining back the weight (I'm relatively thin), I've been to afraid to try again, lest I slow my metabolism or trigger a binge eating disorder. Plus, it's just easier not to change. Though I still think about it about 2-10 times a day, usually.

Is it normal? For the comments, what should I do? It's not like I need to go into treatment, because I eat normally, but it still bothers me.

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Based on 53 votes (11 yes)
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  • sourgrapes

    No its not bloody normal

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  • sillygirl77

    You should see a therapist. This isn't normal!

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    • Reflections

      If it isn't normal, but I'm otherwise emotionally stable and functioning normally (which I am), why should I? I've already considered this and I'm just not sure it's worth the time and money as long as it doesn't hurt me or anyone else. Thanks for your reply. :)

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      • Ellenna

        But it WILL hurt you! You're delusional if you don't realise you'd be inflicting early death from organ failure on yourself and won't it hurt those who love you to see you doing this to yourself?

        PLEASE get yourself some therapy ASAP!

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      • sillygirl77

        It can hurt you. Malnourshment can make you very ill and even cause death, so yes you should see a therapist for treatment.

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        • Reflections

          My point is, I'm not being malnourished, and don't have the willpower to inflict that on myself, so why does it matter?

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          • sillygirl77

            Are you feeling emotional pain due to the desire to?

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            • Reflections

              I mean... yeah, but not more than I can live with. I can't help but feel twinge of envy when I see skinny girls, and feeling disgusted every time I see my thighs. I can't really enjoy dessert anymore without a side of guilt, but most days it's just really annoying and secretly obsessive.

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  • Cloud9

    I think so. Everyone has their own style. My ex liked sporting that anorexic look. I could easily see every rib's outline and one time I could've sworn I saw an organ's bulge right underneath the skin (only 1 time because I never lifted that shirt again rofl). It was disturbing but hey if that's your style

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  • Roustabout

    I wonder if anorexics exist in starving countries. Or is it just first world people?

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    • Ellenna

      Pretty much a first world problem I reckon: starving in the midst of plenty

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      • Roustabout

        I have no sympathy for that.

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        • Reflections

          It's not really like I, or anyone with an eating disorder can stop the thoughts. I've tried multiple times. No one chooses to have an eating disorder- except possibly me? Even I'm not fully sure if I'm actually choosing or if I just think I am.

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          • Roustabout

            Do whatever you want. I have no sympathy for you. I'm sure no starving people do either.

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  • dirtybirdy

    Not a good idea. You can still lose the weight in a healthier way. I don't support anorexia but I have to admit that I've seen some pictures that I found pleasing to look at, in a strange way. Certain model type pictures of sickly thin people. I think I look at them more like a sculpture or some form of artwork. It's kinda hard to explain.. I certainly don't envy those people nor do I want to be that thin, it's just...I dunno.

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    • Ellenna

      So I guess you find pictures of concentration camp survivors or people with terminal cancer attractive? How is "sickly thin" ever attractive?

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      • dirtybirdy

        Not at all, and those people didn't choose to starve themselves to death. Like I said, it's hard to explain and I don't support anorexia. I don't expect most people to understand why found those 2 or 3 pictures pretty like a painting. I know it's a messed up thought, but we all like something that appauls the masses.

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    • Reflections

      Hey, even if you only kinda sorta know where I'm coming from, that makes me feel a bit better. And I know it's a bad idea- like I said, I've done the research. So, making decisions rationally, as I always do, I choose not to starve myself. It's only the irrational thoughts that persist, and they worry me...

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      • dirtybirdy

        I feel ya. It's sorta like how I, among many others, find serial killers fascinating. Horrible, deplorable people, but fascinating none the less and sometimes I can't help but think about them. Like what made them that way and all, but I'm not about to become a serial killer nor do I condone their behavior. This is the best analogy I could come up with at the moment because it's similar to this thought process I suppose. So just don't become the serial killer ;) I don't know how exactly, but you're going have to figure out a way to change your thoughts about it so it stops consuming you.

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    • sillygirl77

      Probably not the best thing for the OP to hear that someone finds in pleasing in a strange way

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      • dirtybirdy

        I know, I realized that afterwards :( Unfortunately, I don't always think before I type.

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        • sillygirl77

          Yeah I've certainly been there: realizing after I say something that maybe I shouldn't have... too much *sigh*

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          • Reflections

            It's comforting to hear that I'm not the only one who find things pleasing in a strange way... And that goes beyond the underweight look. I just want to not feel like a complete freak of nature for feeling that way.

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            • sillygirl77

              fair enough

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  • mysistersshadow

    Being anotexic isn't a good idea. Been there done that.

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  • HalfInsaneFemale

    your bone bank builds up when you are young and when girls become anorexic your bones get brittle as shit and you snap all your shit up

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  • fluffy1uv

    Is this healthy? No. Definitely not.

    Is it normal? Surprisingly yes it is. It has to do with the way beauty is portrayed by media in most countries.

    I've known too many people who suffer from similar conditions to say that this isn't "normal". You should still seek help

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  • Reflections

    Well put. I absolutely agree. Sorry to hear about the eating disorder, that must've been pretty rough, to say the least. :(
    It's hard for me to enjoy unhealthy food without feeling guilty, no matter the occasion, but I still try to.
    It does get quite a bit harder to lose weight without eating below BMR as you get thinner, which is where the temptation lies.

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  • veganpagan

    I want to do this too.

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  • 09876543210

    You want to be flat? Sure, your life I guess.

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  • RoseIsabella

    So you want to be weak and puny?

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    • Reflections

      Kind of? Puny: yes. Weak: a side effect that I might be willing to live with. Although I realize that was probably a rhetorical question. :P

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      • RoseIsabella

        ... but why?

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