Is it normal that i want to adopt, but i think i might be a bad influence?

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I know it's *rather* normal that i'm terrified of giving birth, i've been like it since i was around 7 years old.
But i specifically want to adopt a ginger child, they really appeal to me because they're unique (i know i can't be so specific),
but i'm scared of it being depressed and thinking that there's no point in life, just like i do. I tend to be anxious around people, unfamiliar places or children. I've got OCD and tend to have anger problems and i'm worrried that if i adopt a child i'll pass on all of my insecurities. Would it be cruel if i saw no point in life but still adopted, or would that be okay because they've already been born?
Is that atleast mildly normal or just weird?

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  • UliNalaMansae
    12 years ago

    i dont understand why people hate gingers, its just a hair colour. But as for you, i'm no expert but unless you're properly recovered you probably shouldn't have a child. A lot of people worse than have brought children into this world and wrecked theirl lives of course you might not do so much damage but that doesn't change the fact that unless you're sure you can do it. Wait a bit. i don't know im just a kid.

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    • niniozo
      12 years ago

      It's also the fact that genetically, they must have freckles, be super pale and burn in the sun. But I have nothing against them. My best friend is ginger. It is funny though when I'm so tan and she's so burned.

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  • flutterhigh
    12 years ago

    if you're adopting a ginger child then you don't have to worry about corrupting it.

    "the darkness can neither abate nor heighten, for the devil's own thumbs mold the callous shell of the ginger" (matthew, 3:12)

    "god fucking hates gingers" (leviticus 5:3)

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Hilarious. All your comments are such genius dude! :D

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      • flutterhigh
        12 years ago

        i only speak the truth. :>

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  • tint40
    11 years ago

    I would try to be a foster parent first. Most of the kids that you'll care for will already be fucked up because of the situations they're coming from. They might appreciate an 'eccentric' person like yourself, they might have similar feelings and not feel like such an outcast, or they might be better adjusted and feel relief that they aren't as messed up as you. As long as you can give them love, compassion and a secure home environment they'd appreciate it- and you. Also, most older kids will already have their personalities developed, so there's minimal chance of adversely affecting them.

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  • com999
    12 years ago

    If you are adopting, you are probably better than not having a parent. At least you care what kind of parent you will be

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