Is it normal that i want my boyfriend to act like he's not attracted to me?

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I'm a 19 year old female and I don't like it when my boyfriend shows any signs of attraction to me. I hate it when he tries to kiss me, when he says anything remotely romantic, or when he suggests anything sexual. I've been with him for 3 years and have never gotten the chance to feel attracted to him because of his annoying behavior. I started dating him only because he's good looking and is similar to me with regard to personality/interests.

I've had many boyfriends and I've never been attracted to any them either, as they all did that annoying stuff, too.

I just want a guy who isn't attracted to me, acts exactly like a best friend, and will never try to kiss me or give me annoying compliments.

However, I'd be fine with a girl kissing me or wanting sex even though I'm straight.

Is this normal?

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Based on 42 votes (5 yes)
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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago | pl

    Your reasons for having a boyfriend might sound good on paper but it comes off as really superficial.

    You're into girls.

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  • noid
    8 years ago | pl

    Hahaha no. You're not straight. You're lesbian.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    So you just want a man-slave?

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago | pl

    So you want a boyfriend that you don't show signs of affection to?

    ...You sound annoying...

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  • dytrog
    8 years ago

    You don't seem to like anything about men. So why not just admit your are gay?

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    That's messed up!

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  • Secretstar
    8 years ago

    I think you're not into men

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  • CrimsonEye
    8 years ago

    So annoying.

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  • AkyraTheFurry
    8 years ago

    Remind me never to date you

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  • babystar
    8 years ago

    you may be asexual or aromantic, looking for a queerplatonic relationship.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I think you should do what makes you happy :):):)

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  • januarycurse
    8 years ago

    I used to be like that. I was attrated to guys but when they started liking me back it turned me off and I started looking for good looking guy who wasn't attracted to me. It might seem exciting to live for that kind of adventure and be around guys who are hard to get, but it doesn't really lead to anywhere and I felt bad about myself eventually.

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    • Dogslingshot
      8 years ago

      So, what did you do? In the end, did you manage to become attracted to guys who liked you back?

      I'm not even trying to find 'excitement'. I just want a boyfriend whom I actually have feelings for. My current boyfriend is awesome - good looking, intelligent, and very similar to me. But I just don't feel anything for him and am annoyed with him being attracted to me.

      I don't think any of my relationships are going to work out if I'm highly annoyed by guys being attracted to me... How did you fix that?

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