Is it normal that i want my best friend as my girl friend?

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I have been best friends with this girl since we were 11 (I'm 24 right now BTW) and for most of that time, I've had a massive crush on her. I've had girl friends and she's had boy friends but somehow I've always continued to think about her. When I was 15 my family moved away for about 6 years, then came back and I currently live about 2 hours away from her. We are still really good friends but I want more. Thing is, she has a boyfriend currently (a nice guy, but kind of a looser. Still lives with his parents and has no job and stuff.) I am looking for a way to approach this that won't end my friendship with her, but has a good chance at success. For reference, I have a very good job, am decent looking, own my own condo, but I'm kind of shy and somewhat awkward. We are very comfortable with each other by now having been friends for over half our lives. Also, I will admit to being a tad selfish as I have no qualms about stealing her away from her current boyfriend. Is this normal, does it make me a bad person, is there a good way to proceed?

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  • handsignals
    8 years ago

    Have you tried grabbing her ass or titties, you need to let her know you have feelings for her, maybe whip dick when it's hard to make her feel special.

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    • Terrik1337
      8 years ago

      Knowing this girl, all of the above would be counter productive. I'm looking for something more romantic and less vulgar. Also, she knows me well enough to know that I would never do something like that. She would know I was trying too hard.

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      • handsignals
        8 years ago

        Life is short and sex feels good and sometimes you get pizza and sometimes you sit alone with a 5th of vodka and masturcry because you walked in on that one chick that you liked and she was blowing Garrett...

        ...but that's life Brah.

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  • CDmale4fem
    8 years ago

    Invite her to come over for dinner on weekend, chit chat leads to small talk leads to deep conversations. I had a friend yrs ago, we were like 10-12-14 yrs old, I saw her again about 10-12 yrs ago, I just straight up told her "I had such a crush on you back then". She said she knew it, and that was last we spoke of it.

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  • januarycurse
    8 years ago

    maybe she just sees you as a friend, so far. if you want something more the best strategy would be to show her how much better you are than her current boyfriend. that way you won't feel guilty when she dumps him for you, because you can have ease of mind knowing that it was her decision and that you were only subtly influencing her.

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  • Dianadimov
    8 years ago

    Ahhhhhhh this is absolutely the cutest thing I have read so far!!!!! Yes go for it man what do you have to lose! Seriously she could probably totally into you as well and waiting for you to make a move find your perfect chance to meet up bring her flowers and tell her how you feel!

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  • dytrog
    8 years ago

    Just tell her you had wanted to ask her out when you were younger but was afraid of losing a friend.

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    • Legion
      8 years ago

      That's where I was with my best friend. I liked her, but due to our friendship, my nerves, and some signs I picked up too late, I missed it.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

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