Is it normal that i want a bromance?

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Okay first of all, I am 100% straight trust me. So don't say "I think you're just not admitting it." But there is nothing wrong with being gay so don't take that the wrong way!
So about a year ago I had a best friend (male just like me) who I had gotten really close with, and I had a girlfriend at the time.
But when my girlfriend broke up with me, it was a pretty bad breakup, so my best friend was there to help me through this which created a kind of bond I've never had before, we would hangout and watch movies and put our arms around eachother, lean on eachother and stuff like that (I am positive it was a straight bromance from both sides) and even though I've never been that close with a guy in that way it kinda felt good to have a friend like that.. but anyways a bunch of stuff happened with his personal life and he ended up moving far away, so I haven't seen him since. And now since a year has passed I've been really wanting another bromance-like friendship like that again.

Is it normal that I want another friendship like that again? If it is, how would I get one?

Remember, I'm completely straight, 18yrs old and I want this friendship to be 100% platonic

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  • CountessDouche
    9 years ago

    Unfortunately, due to blatant homophobia, you can't force a bromance without another guy thinking you're making a pass. Those kinds of super comfy man friendships take a lot of time, and part of it is going through the good and bad together.

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    • Anonymous200
      9 years ago

      I think that applies to all friendships actually. Most people aren't super close after they first meet. Close friendships, like love, take time.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    9 years ago

    You get one over a long time, it takes a while, been friends with my best mate for nearly 8 years now, I'd say it took around 4 or 5 years, two family break ups, college, 4 concerts, helping him through social services and fostering and him helping me through depression to get to that point.

    It takes time and shared experiences to become truly close to someone but just work at a friendship and I hope you have a similar friendship soon :)

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    You can't 'make' a friendship like that. It either happens or not.
    I've had a few very, very close male friends in my life (35+ years). As close as straight guys could possibly be, but there has never been any physical contact such as you describe.
    I just don't see that as being a part of a male/male friendship. But hey, I guess that's just me and my friends.

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  • tranluuquang
    9 years ago

    Just log in to add a comment. I have exactly the same feeling, google it and somehow and it led me here. I don't need to have many friends, just need a friend I can call him when I am bored, and hang out, can go to his house and sleep over (of course 100% platonic), a friend that really cares about me. Now when I am sad, when I really need some help, some advice. Pick up the phone and keep scrolling but can't stop at any name :((

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