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About a year ago he cheated on me and I forgave him but a couple weeks ago I cheated on him and then it made me angry about what he did because the guy I cheated with used me and now I feel like because of him (my bf) I shamed myself.
Ummm, way to blame someone else for your actions. Not saying what he did was right, but I don't think you ever really forgave him if you cheated on him and now say you did that because of him... One of you should probably just end the relationship, for both of your sake.
No, what you're talking about is not normal, it might be common with some especially codependent and stupid people who aren't capable of rigorous honesty, but it's not not normal. You're two timing idiot boyfriend is only responsible for himself and his actions, he is not responsible, nor are you blameless for your own stupid, timing way!
You sound like you just want to play the victim and act like everything is all his fault and you're blameless. Bull-muthafuckin-shit! Just because he cheated first doesn't mean it's his fault that some opportunistic douchebag used your sorry ass when you cheated on your asshole boyfriend! You are not some helpless woodland creature or ignorant small child, stop playing the victim and accept some responsibility.
I also want to ask you why you didn't just leave his cheating ass instead of playing a stupid get even game? It's not your boyfriend's fault. It's your fault for staying with him and trying to get even! If you're angry and booty hurt from my response it's because you know I'm right!
Please try to go get some help from a therapist and I also highly recommend that you start attending meetings of Codependents Anonymous if you want to have a better life. Other people are not responsible for your actions.
http://coda.org/
https://slaafws.org/
Basically, you're using your boyfriend's cheating to justify your actions and blame him for your poor judgement.
Your boyfriend sucks for cheating, but you can't lose control of yourself and blame your boyfriend for your own actions. If you're angry with him and can't trust him, then end the relationship and focus on rebuilding your self-esteem and knowing you deserve better.
Don't think so much. In sex there is no logic. Love and sex are two different things.
Retaliation, Revenge are not the base of a sweet relationship. He did a bullshit job, for that you did that same?! Really? So whats the difference remaining between both of you? So, Guys on the above are right. One of you should breakup.
Why are you still together? You're going to go through this all over again in a few months when he cheats on you to get back at you. You can't trust each other now and you should be ashamed, you both should, you don't belong together if all you're going to do is repeat a cycle of cheating and hurting each other.