Is it normal that i think we are desperate to fit in and we have nothing else?

You're right; we all do have a need to fit in and belong to a group, which we will pursue after our basic needs have been met.

I'm not too sure what strap-ons have to do with fitting in (some definitely don't). Although maybe smartphones and facebook might be failed attempts to fulfill the need to fit in?

But it's true, none of the things you listed are essential for survival. Consumerism and marketing do prey on our need to be part of a group or gain group approval. And I guess for some this need is never fully met, which is how the cycle continues.

Lego and meth are just plain fun though. Fuck fitting in, herds are insane.

you missed anal bleaching, very relevant for your story

It's the caffeine, the nicotine, the milligrams of tar
It's my habitat, it needs to be cleaned, it's my car
It's the fast talk they use to abuse and feed my brain
It's the cat box it needs to be changed, it's the pain
It's women, it's the fight for power it's government
It's the way you're giving knowledge
slow with thought control and subtle hints
It's rubbing it, It's itching it, It's applying cream
It's the foreigners sight seeing with high beams, It's in my dreams
It's the monsters that I conjure, It's the marijuana
It's embarrassment, displacement, it's where I wander
It's my genre, It's Madonna's videos
It's game shows, cheap liquor, blunts,
and bumper stickers with rainbows
It's angels, demons, gods, it's the white devils
It's the monitors, the soundman, it's the fucking mic levels
It's gas fumes, fast food, Tommy Hil' and mommy's pill
Columbia House music club, designer drugs and rhyming thugs
It's bloods, crips, fives, six
It's stick up kids,
It's christian conservative terrorists, it's porno flicks
It's the east coast, no it's the west coast
It's public schools, it's asbestos
It's mentholated, It's techno
It's sleep, life, and death
It's speed, coke, and meth
It's hay fever, pain relievers, oral sex, and smokers breath
It stretches for as far as the eye can see
It's reality, fuck it , it's everything but me.

So of all the things I listed 'Strap on's' was the most surprising!? Strap on's are a perfect example of the desire to conform. It's the ultimate expression of males and females wanting to understand each other more so they can conform to each others desires.

Alright I have to wonder where you live is "Meth" is the daily routine for all people. You must live in the really bad ghetto is absolutely everyone is doing "Meth". Not everyone is doing it. They use to use it for factory workers most places that did this illegalized it since.

There's a difference between NEEDING and WANTING.

I don't do anything to "fit in" , which is probably why I'm receiving so much negative reactions from people around me. I honestly understand why a lot of people rather chose to conform rather than have to endure what individualists have to go through every time they leave the door.

Not that I'm that unique really, I just stand out.

humans need ways to express themselves, make money and to find mates if you invent something to make it easier for them they will happily use it

never heard of Oxycontin

I think that's a very simplistic explanation.

People are social animals, and we have a built-in drive toward being part of a community. Most of us are happier when we're part of a community, even if we can live without it or we are introverts. It isn't brainwashing when it's built-in :P

Consumerism isn't great, but I don't think people do it just to fit in. Advertising is very clever at trying to make us feel inadequate compared to our "potential" and compared to other people. Advertising is like a manipulative partner who treats you like shit and then you stay with them because they're inside your head.

This stuck somewhere between''marry a man'' reminded me of the lonely island parody song lol.

What's wrong with Tatoos! I have six of them. And I think they are very artistic looking. And received many complements on them. Hater! And I hate Iphones! GRRRRR! And just to clarify. I don't need them, I like having them.

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