Is it normal that i think nobody appreciates me that much?

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I always feel the same. When I was in highschool I always got the best grade in school but still mom didn't appreciated me that much,but when my brother barely passed she was like "that's my boy keep on trying".
I feel worthless,like a little runt of the family coz I have seen it so many times. She always says " you are always in your room,get a job like your brother"
& I always say "mom I was studying, & brother is 28 So he has to get a job, while I am still in college"
Is this comparison normal??

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  • KiwiWisdom
    5 years ago

    You're correct. Nobody appreciates you for your grades. You have to learn to appreciate yourself and not be reliant on the approval of others. Comparing children to one another, however old, is a shame tactic that only leads to self doubt and feelings of worthlessness. Only people who are already self motivated make success out of shame because they largely work against it. Being in college, learning self approval and seeking a path forward will lead you to something you can be proud to share and recieve reciprocal pride in return from those you deem worthy to share it. Your situation is unfortunately common, but not normal for healthy self worth.

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  • RavenStarr
    5 years ago

    Same with my mother except I don't have a brother... She always compares me to others though even if they are older or richer...

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    Your in school and your older brother is working. I see nothing wrong with that. Tell your mother your feelings and concentrate on your studies. You'll be more successful down the road.

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    I think your mother is an idiot.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      May be... or she just lacks parenting qualities.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        I think she's an idiot for playing favourites. Unless your brother has a learning disorder, or some other sort of neurological, and or mental disorder that would prevent him from living a normal life there's no reason for her to make such a fuss over him like he's a little baby or something. Also I can't respect anyone who complains about someone else studying too much, because that is an ignorant and ass-backwards way of thinking.

        Additionally I can't help but to wonder if perhaps your mother is money hungry, or if you live in a more patriarchal and traditional sort of culture. I honestly don't know if you are male or female, but for some reason I suspect that you are female. I could be wrong of course, but that is my suspicion in my gut.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          Ummm! I am a guy & No my brother don't have any issues. She is certainly not money hungry may be the latter one fits correct.

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          • RoseIsabella
            5 years ago

            Right on. I just tend to think that as long as your making good grades people should be having more respect for the fact that you're trying to get a higher education. If your brother is significantly older than you, and not in school it makes no sense to compare ya'll.

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  • e51pegasi
    5 years ago

    You're in college right, why can't you find a part time job?

    It will keep your mother off your back, give you some independence, boost your self esteem, looks good on your resume & of course some extra cash. Everyone's a winner.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I can but then it will affect my grades & I don't wanna loose my scholarship

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      • e51pegasi
        5 years ago

        I can't see how, working 8 hours a week is going to ruin your grades as billions have done so in the past & are now.

        It just seemed to be a practical solution to your issue with added bonuses.

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