Is it normal that i think "just talk to them" is such a common is it normal answer?

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Often times, with relationship posts, I see that there are many answers saying "You need to talk to that person about the issue that you are having and try to come to an agreement" and so on and so forth.

I am seeing a pattern here (curiously one that was mentioned in a communications class that I once took), that the solution to most of these relational problems is to just fucking talk to the person.

is it normal that I feel that "just talk to them" is a stupidly common (yet necessary) is it normal answer?

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  • emilydoll
    11 years ago

    Perhaps it is the solution.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    11 years ago

    How can it be stupid if it is necessary

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      How is it that most of the folks posting on this story can't seem to answer a simple question?

      I would think that if you are having certain relational problems common sense dictates that you speak to them, however, the more I interact with others the more apparent it becomes that my idea of common sense may be a bit too... advanced....

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      • thinkingaboutit
        11 years ago

        how can common sense be advanced?

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          I mean as a knowledge it requires more advanced learning than simple common sense.

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          • thinkingaboutit
            11 years ago

            with advancement, it would no longer be common sense :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I don't believe it is a solution at all, a lot of the time there is no point and you should just move on from the whole relationship, be it romantic, friendship, or family relationship.

    The IsItNormal community is one that believes there is a big old grassy hill with rainbows and hoping bunnies at the end of every problem. Anyone that understands that a lot of the times there is no point in trying to mend the relationship, they call you an asshole.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      I completely understand that, but I don't believe that every situation that is posted here warrants straight out abandonment, and even I understand that telling someone to leave what could be a perfectly good relationship that has fallen on hard times (and just looks shitty by virtue of a 3-4 paragraph post) may not be beneficial to do.

      But I agree with you, some of these relationships are beyond salvation, people just don't like to admit that =/ 7 billion other people on Earth.

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  • wasjusthinkin
    11 years ago

    It's the simple things in life that people can't grasp. They want to make it more complicated. They don't have to...But they do. Common fucking since to be completely open about what's bothering you. In all relationships. Family, friends, boy/girl friends, so on. I'm a very honest and blunt person. If i have a question i will ask it. If i have a problem that's bothering me i will discuss it with you. Etc.... Gotta lay it out on the table. This technique has saved me from a life time of drama and bullshit.

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  • nobleserpent
    11 years ago

    Hipster senses tingling.

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      I fail to see how analyzing how other people conduct their interpersonal communications is something that only a hipster could do. If only hipsters are capable of such thoughtful analysis then I am glad that you think of my that highly.

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      • nobleserpent
        11 years ago

        Sorry I tried not to delve into what I meant. Allow me to explain-

        Its a valid point and one I ironically agree with but what else can you expect? Generic questions breed generic Answers.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          11 years ago

          I don't understand, but ok.

          I just wonder sometimes how people get by with this lack of communication sense.

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    I agree, that "talk to them" should be tried, or at least be considered before posting the problem. However, I think people still post the problem because talking to them can be very difficult to do, and the OP's are just hoping for the "magical easy way out"

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    • JustinBiebsFan#1
      11 years ago

      live like a windrammer as you fuck

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  • blaster
    11 years ago

    Spose it's so common bc it's the smartest first step you an do . Not much point sayin jump of a cliff when they aren't even sure what's going on in the other ones head yet.

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  • smartpatrol11
    11 years ago

    Talking is fine as long you dont find yourself having to have little talks all the time then something is wrong that needs more than talking to fix

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    oh

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  • aussiewolf
    11 years ago

    why would common things be stupid? or did you mean that the questions are so stupid that having to say "talk to the person" shouldnt actually have to be said because it should be a given?

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    • NeuroNeptunian
      11 years ago

      I'm not invalidating the questions here. I'm saying that the answer "just talk to them" is such a given and it being so common I would think that it would have already been considered.

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      • aussiewolf
        11 years ago

        so basically you're saying that the OP is an idiot? i agree...

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