Is it normal that i think i forgive him?

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I'll give extra details if they're wanted. For an entire year when I was 9 until I was 10 (beginning on my 9th Birthday) I was sexually abused by my older brother who was 15. He told me it was what happens in families and if i told anyone they would all blame me so I didnt. I realised quickly it was wrong and hated my brother for it. But he stopped after a year and acted as if it didn't happen. I obviously never forgot and it still kills me to this day but i put it to the back of my mind and after a number of years we developed a new relationship that i respect because it feels like two different people. Hes a loving father now to my godchild and we speak regularly. I think i forgive him for the past, is this normal?

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    *waits*

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      What?

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  • herpesfreesince93
    7 years ago

    He's a loving father now? How much does he love this child? Does he love her 7 inches?

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    It's normal and healthy to forgive.

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      It's also normal and healthy to NOT forgive someone who's violated you and never apologised or tried to make amends.

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      • Tealights
        7 years ago

        That's called resentment, which is normal, but can eat away at you if nothing is done about it.

        Plus, he probably tried to make up for his actions by changing into a person she can respect. However, talking it out could provide closure, but only if the OP feels it's necessary.

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