Is it normal that i still think about my toxic ex after 1,5 years

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It's been 1 year and 6 months since he cut me off, and I still feel shitty about it. It ended pretty toxic and I think I need to work on myself more because he made me feel worthless. I don't feel worthless around other people than him, not that I'm seeing him anymore. I have had no contact since the day, but I keep hoping and thinking of meeting him for closure. I am never going to get closure. What should I do? I am mentally tired of thinking of him. I cannot find closure, because I have no contact with him, and I both never want to see him again, at the same time I want to talk to him and make up, even though I know I can't change him. I feel hopeless in this situation and I hate the fact that I think about him.

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  • McSorley
    3 years ago

    If he made you feel shitty when you were around him, and you're okay around other people, why do you think you need to work on yourself? Maybe he was just a lowlife fucksock who liked to rag on you to feel better about himself? Try to forget about it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Can you please refresh my memory as to which person hooked on a toxic ex-boyfriend you are?

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  • Spraymom
    3 years ago

    STOP worrying about finding closure with him and start finding peace within yourself!! The fact that you have moved on and refuse to communicate with him is a start...The best way to get over a man is to pursue your dreams and focus only on your dreams and become a successful woman who will eventually meet a successful man who will value and respect you. Ijs :)

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  • Unknown_player
    3 years ago

    I've been in a situation similar to yours and you may never forget it or get over it like the other commenters suggest. So don't. Don't you forget it, don't you forget how hurt and how unlike yourself that you felt around him. Remember how shitty he made you feel and use that as a reminder to not go back there. The hurt and pain will eventually subside just don't cling to those hopes of getting back with someone you know was bad for you. Put your energy into something else deserving of your time and take each day as it comes .

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago

    Yeah thats normal. It can take a long time to get over someone even if they were toxic, thats how emotions work unfortunately. I felt that way for a long time after my toxic relationship ended, that I wanted to see him and talk things through, but I realized eventually that he would only tell more lies and try to get me back in his web.

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  • Boojum
    3 years ago

    You say he's the one who ended the relationship. That suggests you hadn't yet reached a point where you were ready and able to end it, so it isn't surprising you feel as you do.

    What you're going through is normal, and there are strategies you can use to help you move on.

    https://www.stylist.co.uk/life/how-to-move-on-from-a-toxic-relationship-to-become-a-stronger-person-argument-couples-sex-sadness-man-woman/65317

    https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/201805/overcoming-the-aftermath-leaving-toxic-relationship

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  • Tommythecaty
    3 years ago

    Get a new one

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      Get a new toxic ex-boyfriend? 😆

      Sorry, I couldn't resist!

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      • Tommythecaty
        3 years ago

        No Isabell, a new boyfriend who can eventually become another toxic ex.

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        • RoseIsabella
          3 years ago

          Oh no! 😮

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