Is it normal that i spend the holidays alone.... even with someone in my life?

So I have been involved with a guy for awhile now. The part that gets to me is that I always ask days in advance what the plans for Christmas... as I know he has his own thing going which normally excludes me. And he will tell me that he will see me as soon as he is done with his family thing. But this is the 2nd year in a row where I don't here from him... Nor has he even bothered to come over... Here I am sitting up until 1am and just came to the conclusion not to expect him. And because of this... I get so angry, alone, sad... He knows I don't do anything with anyone... my roommate does his thing then comes home but my Christmas is normally a combination of getting up, taking a shower, and looking around at how dead everything is with a mental countdown of when I will be seeing him... Then when That time comes and goes, it just amplifies things... and I feel like an idiot sitting waiting....

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  • Two or more years together and you both still don't see each others families at all? That seems really weird to me.

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  • DragonQueen

    He Sounds like a waste of time. And that he's just using u for his own desires. My king and I attended the royal orgy together. Then we had a delicious banquet of Thai Food. (Together). He shall b banned from my Court! You go find a shining knight who will b with u night and day. Then u won't have to go through that trauma. As a Queen I would not tolerate his behavior so do your self a favor and dump that hump!

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  • dom180

    Being alone at Christmas must be awful, sorry you had to deal with that.

    I don't think this guy deserves to be condemned, however I am surprised that he doesn't care more about how you feel at Christmas. You should make sure he understands how you feel about this. Try not to get down in the dumps about being ignored; your value as a person is not defined by how much time you spend with him or anyone else at any time of you.

    My first thought is that you do seem quite dependent on him. Perhaps if you are often needy at other times of the year, he does not understand that being left alone at Christmas is more important that being alone any other time. Just a thought.

    What I don't understand is why he wouldn't invite you to spend it with his family. You've been together for two years, so you must be serious so I'm sure you'd be welcome with him and his family. Tell him that.

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  • Maybeoneday

    Hey, you deserve better. You should find someone else who can give you that, don't be alone by choice. It's hard and things don't get better unless you make that effort to move on.

    It isn't worth it. Staying up, looking at the clock, waiting for his call, spending every minute of your life, just waiting for something you know will never work. Take it from someone whose had her heart broken and spent those nights awake crying. It doesn't get better until you let go.

    He isn't the guy, you deserve someone who will make a life with you. Anyone who doesn't make the effort to bring you into their life shouldn't hold the most important place in yours.

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  • Shackleford96

    What kind of boyfriend ignores his girlfriend on Christmas? He sounds like an ass, and you sound desperate/dependent. You should gain your independence and learn to rely on yourself more than others so that you will not have to experience that hurt of being let down. Find yourself a new boyfriend too, sheesh.

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  • Tommythecat.

    We are all of one consciousness experiencing itself subjectively. I have just now answered every question that has ever and will ever be asked on IIN. Goodbye/hello

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    • I like Bill Hicks.

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      • Tommythecat.

        Good.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Who's Bill Hicks?

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        • Your momma is Bill Hicks

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  • RoseIsabella

    No offense but ya'll don't sound very involved to me at all. Part of having a significant other is spending those special times like holidays together and with family.

    Don't be afraid to strike out on your own if you are not happy with him and his behavior.

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  • KnightTemplar

    I can relate. I don't have a solution, but I'm truly sorry. Hope you enjoy your holidays

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    • DragonQueen

      Will u do me the honor of joining my Court, Sir Knight? I could use a few more like you.

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      • KnightTemplar

        Anytime my Queen:) !!

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        • DragonQueen

          Ok then, But your are aware you must undergo the Secret Dragon Ritual. In order to stay in My Realm. For a prolonged period of time. For you is shall be easy. If you are anointed with Agadir Oil.

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          • KnightTemplar

            I'm a knight. Do I have to go through some Secret Dragon Ritual..

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            • DragonQueen

              Yes, Indeed you are. Ok your right. But you still must swear an oath to protect my Kingdom. You may bypass the Secret Dragon Ritual. You will be allowed full access to everything within my Realm. Which Includes choice of Armor, One or more of my beautiful ladies in waiting, And You can reside in the Knights quarters. Each knight has his own 2 bedroom suite. Or you may stay in the the Palace as a guest of the King, and myself. It's your Choice. I hope you will find this arrangement suitable.

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