Is it normal that i shut off my friends who are... superior to me?

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There are two very old friends that I've cut off for 6 and 3 years. They both got their bachelor degrees, got jobs, while I am still a catastrophic mess, still in college. They tried contacting me multiple times over the years but I ignored them or lied that I had "personal stuff" going on and would talk later.

One big difference between them and me is I'm working/funding my own education, while their parents completely funded them. Initially I cut them off because of that. But then I came to terms with the fact that I'm getting myself through university/college. But then it became that it's been so many years and I only have an associates degree to show. The reason for feeling inferior keeps changing

They did nothing wrong at all. Both of them are stellar people, which makes me even more disheartened that I'm not in touch with them. But I just can't seem to bring myself to. I know for a fact that if I had completed my bachelors and had a job (regardless of pay), I would've contacted them - no problem.

Or not even that. I would -still- tell them my current situation, and confide in them, if they wouldn't tell someone else, which I know one of them is highly likely to do. It's why I don't talk about my personal stuff for that very reason. I loathe being gossiped about. People can be judgmental. I myself never look down on anyone who doesn't finish school or anything like that ever. I'm the pushover type that appreciates everything people do

So yeah. For the past week this has been bothering me.

Any input/opinions? =/

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  • peaceandlovebro
    9 years ago

    I've done this before in my life and it's not worth it in the long run. Life is far too short to cut out decent people from your life. Let them in and if they love you, they won't judge you.

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    No one is "superior" to you for having their bachelor's degree. I finished college and I doubt any of my friends or family members see me as being superior to them. That's no way to live life. Live for you. Compete with yourself, not others. Also, you don't have to be friends with anyone unless you want to. It sounds like you want to be friends, though. And your reasons for not being friends with them are not valid (except for the gossiper).

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I've distanced myself from real world friends for similar reasons. I might not be as old as I feel, and in some ways I act half my age, but in recent years I've come to greatly appreciate my own privacy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Age is not how old you are but how old you feel. I'd take someone who can act half their age over someone who acts their age all the time. The former are often fun people, and you seem to be one of them

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Thanks.

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