Is it normal that i refer to almost every stranger as an "asshole" in my head

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When I'm out and about, especially at my job. I observe people and I'll see them doing various small things that annoy me. Maybe they're smoking in an area they're not supposed to or maybe they're driving a little too slowly. Sometimes they're doing something completely harmless, but because they are simply in my way I will engineer a reason why they are an asshole. Like "oh, look at this bicycle asshole, who bikes in 100 degree weather? Go home, get out of here." That sort of thing. Today I was thinking about it and I realized that pretty much every stranger is either neutral or an asshole in my mind. I never really have many good thoughts about strangers. Is this normal?

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  • Sohot
    7 years ago

    No I dont think there's anything wrong with you at all, the fact is most people are ignorant arseholes who seem to live in a bubble with zero consideration for anyone around them. We're victims of our environment and unfortunately to a conscious person in a society of wrong, it can become a bit overwhelming.

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  • Ellenna
    7 years ago

    I reckon you probably don't like yourself much if you're so critical of other people when what they're doing is really none of your business.

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    • DyroneIII
      7 years ago

      Well sometimes it is my business as I am a parks worker. So smoking in the park really does get to me because suddenly I feel like I need to go and tell them to stop, when I really don't want to get into a confrontation over something so stupid.

      Plus, if I didn't think like this, then what would I think? I can't imagine thinking about anything else. Do you just walk around and not think anything about other people?

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      • Ellenna
        7 years ago

        Ok, smoking in the park is one issue and if you're a parks worker isn't it your job to ask them to stop?

        And yeah, most of the time I do just walk around not thinking critical things about other people. I have however noticed that when I'm feeling bad about myself I notice ugly people more and people doing things which annoy me but over which I have no control.

        Stressing out about stuff you don't have any control over is pointless and not good for you. If you can't imagine yourself not doing this then I think you have a problem.

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        • DyroneIII
          7 years ago

          Technically it is my job, but then again I have little or no recourse if they choose to refuse me. That's why it's so stressful. I'm a parks worker not a cop. They could easily say "fuck you" and blow a smoke ring in my face. I have no power to stop them in the end. I can only nag them.

          And you didn't really answer my question. You say you don't think critical things about other people, then what do you think about? Is your mind just blank? That seems more weird to me than being critical.

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          • Ellenna
            7 years ago

            No, of course not a blank mind - most of the time just thinking of ordinary things like what I'm going to do next or later that day or the next day. I live in a very beautiful area, so a fair amount of the time I'm out of the house I'm noticing mountains and trees and the river or whatever my dog is doing.

            I have PTSD, so some of the time I'm anxious and stressed so focussing on not letting that take over and ruin my day - sometimes successful, sometimes not.

            I can see an alternative between ignoring and nagging the smokers in the park: what's stopping you from politely asking them to stop? I'm assuming there are signs to this effect?

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  • catsforlife
    7 years ago

    I too hate those 80 year old grandfathers that drive 20 miles per hour on the road. I too hate when drunk people sing so loud I can't hear my own thoughts.

    I say that they are all assholes. It is normal.

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  • _Mehhh_
    7 years ago

    I can't just think someone is an asshole for no real reason, but people very often do stupid shit in public that pisses me off very quickly

    Some top ones;

    - Suddenly stopping in the middle of the pavement and getting pissed when the person behind walks into them.
    - Stand idle blocking doorways and walkways to text/check bags/do some other stupid shit.
    - Let their screaming baby scream, doing nothing about it.
    - Hurl abuse at their kid for screaming, yes that'll help you stupid bastard.
    - Littering.
    - At the expense of our noses, coming out in public STINKING like they went to bed last night wearing what they're currently wearing, rolled out of bed this morning and walked straight out the door like that.

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  • kasaikitsune12
    7 years ago

    every one that I dont know I know i call them assholes

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