Is it normal that i really like (w no sexual desires) an underage girl?

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I am a young professional who works part time tutoring middle school students. Lately, I've noticed that I really look forward to working with one particular girl. She is very sweet, smart, pretty, and hardworking; it's because of these qualities that she stood out among the rest and is my favorite student to work with.

Now, I know for most, a red flag popped up as soon as I used the word "pretty." This is completely understandable, as my own red flag alerted me into posting this question.

It's hard to explain, but think of a brand new relationship. Think of the jolt of excitement that runs through your body when you see them for the first time that day. How you can't help but smile when you are with them. This is basically how I feel around her. I don't imagine having sex with her, or even kissing her. At most, I just want to hold her hand, or give her a hug.

So, aside from asking whether or not this is normal, I'd like to know if this marks me as a pedophile.

I'd also like to add that I am sexually attracted to girls around my age, not the underage ones.

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  • jeebley
    10 years ago

    Not normal, but I don't think you're a pedophile. I just think that your thoughts about this girl are being diverted in your brain into inappropriate areas.
    Hugging her or holding her hand IS inappropriate - especially in this day and age.

    You can't stop a bird flying over your head, but you don't have to let it make a nest in your hair. So, dismiss these thoughts and be professional.

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  • umph
    8 years ago

    Is she near the age of consent? (15 in my country)

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  • Cellbiologyphiliac
    10 years ago

    It doesn't sound weird to me since it sounds more like you want to be her friend, and there are occasions where friends hug and even hold hands but due to age difference I'd probably refrain from hugging/handholding since other could misperceive it as something it's not which could lead to legal action or something like that.

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  • BIgEB
    10 years ago

    I think this is quite normal...though it also is normal to be concerned about getting too involved...There is nothing wrong with wanting to be around people who give you a lift...in fact,Jesus Christ only hung around with two kinds of people...those who He could help, and those who could help Him...He wanted NOTHING to do with the "influential" people of the day...the Pharisees and Saducees...among those whom he was around...a prostitute...lepers...a man possessed by a "legion" of demons...his disciples included one who would betray him by selling out Christ's life to his enemies...one who denied knowing Him 3 times (though that person proclaimed that he never would deny knowing Christ...even to death)...one was a tax collector who would make the IRS look sweet...two were sirty, smelly fishermen (one of which was the one who denied knowing Christ)...and one who doubted Christ's resurrection unless he could put his fingers in Christ's nail holes...I would be concerned about hugging her or holding her hand...though I personally find nothing wrong with it (as long as that is as far as your mind wants to take it)...if someone saw you doing it in this day and age...it could lead to sexual harrassment charges, and, even though they could be unfounded...could lead to SERIOUS trouble...A nice smile at her or professional compliment would be a proper substitute...

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    • Lonely2
      10 years ago

      But in the end who killed him..the ones he wanted nothing to do with and despised..maybe i he cultivated them they wouldve left him alone

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  • asasasa
    10 years ago

    If you stay like this; feeling happy around her, likes to be kind towards her. Not sexual in any way, then you are fine because you just sound like a sweet caring person to me.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Not sexual, not a pedophile. You're fine.

    Just approach this situation with caution, or you very well may be very sorry.

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