Is it normal that i really don't want to be gay?

Your life is not going to be easier just because you try and be straight because your family members dont agree well guess what fuck them. If they dont accept you then then shouldnt be in your life wait a few years you will accept your identify and be less ashamed. Your sexuality is how you are born not a choice its not something you change.

Sorry to hear that mate but yea its very normal to want to be straight as that is what's considerd "normal" but at the end of the day you are gay and that wont change. Speaking as a gay person, it's not being gay that is the problem, it is the people around you that make it a problem. Your bf needs to realise that pushing you away will not make things any better, just worse. In a time when you're both feeling low becuse of other people is the time you need each others support the most and having close friends that accept you both is imporant also, a true friend would never judge you for things you cannot control.

If you were straight though there would still be problems, life is hard no matter your sexuality.

I hope everything turns out ok for you both.

Unfortunately, it happens. I'm sure you're well aware of how many homophobic bigots are in society today...allow me to let you in on a little secret, many of those people are closeted homosexuals. They're just like you - they're gay, but society has beaten the idea into their head that it's wrong. So they repress those feelings, and as well all know, when you repress emotions, bad things happen. That's why they lash out so angrily and violently at gay people. Your boyfriend's dad is a classic example of that.

It sounds like you need to get away from your boyfriend and his family, and surround yourself with people who will support you. But before anybody can support you, you have to support yourself. You're not doing anything wrong, and you need to accept that. Stop letting bigots get in your head.

Once a sissy boy faggot,,always a sissyboy faggot

jesus christ, love. I know it's scary, but eventually you'll grow into it. its completely normal to be scared of yourself but just give it some time. don't put yourself in a box. you'll figure it out eventually, don't pressure yourself, just live, and it'll all come together.

i have a horrible, homophobic, asian, catholic family and i feel the same way. im going to wait till im older, get a boyfriend then come out and if they hate me ill just move out

It's normal, don't worry. Being gay ISN'T normal, but if you're gay just get on with it and embrace it. I have. Western society doesn't care if you are gay and you'll probably get treated better for it. It's irritating. I'm quite comfortable with it now, I'd change it if I could but it doesn't bother me too much that I can't. Maybe making a child with someone you love is the only time you're going to miss out, but I now see that as a good thing.

I think I understand your problem. It's not that you are gay, it's that you're surrounded by people who are prejudiced against homosexuality, something they consider is a bad thing. The solution seems elusive because you're trying to change yourself to fit their idea of what "should" be instead of what simply "is".

You're gay. Nothing you do will change that, so the quicker you accept that, the quicker you can look at these situations in a healthier light.

The first problem is the BF's family abusing you. If you like your BF, talk to him about cutting contact with the family. If that's an issue, you may have to leave him, but just remember that you aren't the only gay dudes around. You may not relate to the stereotypical effeminate gay man (or whatever), but there are normal guys out there who also just happen to be gay. Being gay doesn't mean you have to change everything about yourself to conform to this weird sub-culture. So, if things don't work out, don't despair.

I don't know how old you are, but you could consider relocating to an area that is more open-minded about that stuff. There's no point in sticking around in a place that feels hostile towards you. And definitely get in touch with the LGBT community for support and ideas. You might not relate to them, but they probably understand your problems better than anyone else. Anyway, good luck man. Hope it all works out for you.

I think it is normal to not want to be gay if you are in a society where being gay is seen as a negitive thing. Just as you wouldn't want to be short if society really looked down on being short, but just as with height, you can't change who you are.

If people give you a hard time, you shouldn't have to "get used to it" as it is a reflection of how terrible they are, not you. You should, however, accept it as it is who you are.

Your boyfriend shouldn't be taking his anger out on you, even if it was your idea for him to come out. You should talk to him, and possibly accept some of the blame since it was both of you who made the decision. You should also decide, probably after talking to him, if you guys will stay together. If you are unsure, give it some time after you guys talk.

Being homosexual is amazing.

Homosexuality is nuture, not nature. It's a choice, not that you make, but which is brought about by consequences of your life growing up, some of which you might not even be aware of.

Being gay is, objectively, pretty terrible, and I think most honest gay people will agree. Life is easier and better if you're straight: gay couples can't reproduce and the culture is crap. One-night stands, rampant disease—and in rural areas, it's basically a club where everyone screws everyone. Not exactly romance.

But you can't change who you are. You can blame your father for not being a positive male role model, or whatever, but you have to accept who you are. And don't put up with an abusive boyfriend.