Is it normal that i only have sex to please the girl.

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I'm great at sex. I never finish though because I work so hard in my head to not finish early that I end up not being able to finish at all. I don't ever initiate sex but I would never turn a girl down after we've had sex once. I give multiple orgasms and usually have sex for around 4 hours. Me making her feel good makes me feel better about myself so I make sure I do it well. None of this sounds bad but I feel like I'm like this because I don't really care about my own sexual desires. In general I want sex mentally but when my sex drive kicks in I just bottle it. I almolst never try to have sex for the act itself. I only try to if a girl shows some interest in me. I never go after girls I'm just interested in. I feel like it's wrong somehow, to want to have sex with a girl on sight and act on that impulse, so I never do it. I just have no agency when it comes to sex.

Agency: the capacity for individuals to make thier own free choices.

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  • Klown
    9 years ago

    "and usually have sex for around 4 hours."

    Whoah, 4 hours? I can totally destroy a woman in 20-34 mins but then I am a large girthy dude.

    Are the woman you frequent "cavernous"? You know like throwing a salami into a cave if you know what I mean?

    Sex is a 2 way street if both people aren't having the party of their life in that bedroom then what's the point?

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  • oneeyedtree
    9 years ago

    I am the same way. I don't initiate sex and don't care one way or another if I have it. If it gets initiated then so be it. There are a lot of reasons for what you could be feeling under the umbrella term Asexuality. I always thought something was "wrong" with me until about 8 months ago I found a website dedicated to asexuals. It fits.

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    • Splithead
      9 years ago

      Im not asexual though I just sort of.... talk myself out of my sex drive whenever it creeps up. Once a girl lets me know she wants to have sex I take full control, like I tap into myself but even then its fully to please them. I don't initiate when I want to because I feel bad, like I shouldn't. I don't stop aka cum like I want to because I feel ashamed of that too. I end up feeling that the woman owns my sex drive.... like its not really mine to stop or start.I don't even ever really choose the girl.... they always choose me and when they don't I just kind of go without. Even with these good sexual habits I still dont really feel in control of sex as it pertains to me

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    I hope these chicks try to please you as well and you're not getting used.

    I'm really only interested in sex within a loving, committed and monogamous relationship.

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    • Splithead
      9 years ago

      This can't be healthy behavior I feel like I'm nutering myself. Is it really okay that I don't have sex for myself at all. I mean it's good for them but It's really unfulfilling for me. It's why I don't try to have sex.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Then maybe you ought to start saying no to these chicks, cupcake, huh? You don't owe anyone anything just because they hit on you. There's nothing wrong with rejecting women.

        I reject plenty of men regardless of physical attraction or whatever, because if we're not spiritually, emotionally and intellectually compatible it's not worth the wasting of my time, energy and emotions. Learn to love and respect yourself before you waste your precious time and loving on someone else, you're worth so much more!

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        • Drawingmud
          9 years ago

          The libtards will not be happy that u take a moral stand Rosie

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          • RoseIsabella
            9 years ago

            Hahaha... I guess you'll have to shart on them for me. ;-)
            I'm liberal in certain ways myself, but I see no need to abandon my morals and blindly go along with everything.

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