Is it normal that i met him throught the internet..

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So, at the moment, I would consider myself taken by someone I've met through the internet. I'm in need of some opinions! Granted it may not be what I want to hear, but having an open mind is important, right? Okay, so I've known this guy for a WHILE. I've known him for almost three years, and we just confessed our feelings for each other about four months ago. So yes, we know quite a lot about one another, and I can easily call him one of my best friends. I've taken so much time to get to know his personality, his different sides, his likes, dislikes. I took my time with him, and I couldn't help but fall for him. But, now I'm starting to think I was in over my head. So, I've never touched the one I love...is this alright or absurd? Thank you so much for reading this! I appreciate your "constructive criticism".

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    Your online love interest will always be better than many guys you meet IRL because they can't be subjected to the same judgments and same situations, and they can be there very often when you want to talk - all they have to do is go online. There's no demands on them because they're your "online" bf. This person is always going to be a potentially better kisser, lover, etc. because they're not there to have you try them out and have them not meet your expectations - they will always seem at least potentially better. When fantasy meets reality there's usually some kind of disappointment. Just don't discount the value of the relationships you have with people you interact with IRL - they're putting up with your IRL faults too. Putting this guy on a pedestal is easy to do. You may want to consider the reality of why he's so appealing (because he's not 100% "real" yet to you, until you see/touch him IRL). I've had these types of relationships and if we're getting along great then after a few months maximum I'll insist we meet IRL, even if they're far away, so I can get a reality check. If they shy away and want to maintain the fantasy, chances are good they don't see you as a real prospect for a serious relationship, or they are hiding something (very easy to initiate and control in an online relationship).

    Just take this into consideration when you're thinking about how great he is, and how fair it is to compare him to guys IRL. And don't neglect the great guys that might be right in front of you and like you for the real you, for what's essentially a fantasy until you decide, as a couple, to make the commitment to at least meet up once and decide if you want to keep going.

    Best of luck to you.

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  • Caryopteris
    10 years ago

    Have you met in person yet?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I'm genuinely happy for you ^_^

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  • laila53
    12 years ago

    I'm in a very similar situation to you and honestly I have a very hard time with people accepting it. I've had challenges with it myself but I have deep feelings for him. It's absurd yes, but it's like that saying 'you can't choose who you love'.

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    Completely normal, both my cousin and my oldest brother met their current wives through the internet.

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  • sparrowfeed
    12 years ago

    that's the way i met my bf of one year :)

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    The moment the internet became a social setting, this was always going to happen. It'll happen more and more often, I guess.

    Is there a reason you two haven't met, by the way? Do you plan to meet?

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    • uhhlissa
      12 years ago

      He currently lives in Arkansas, and me? I'm all the way up in Pennsylvania :\

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      • dappled
        12 years ago

        Aww, you live in a big country. Love usually beats geography, though. :)

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  • WillieFiasco
    12 years ago

    Yea it's normal, who doesn't meet who through the internet its the world we live in now with phones and tablets and what not. We can pretty be social on the go.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I think it's normal, you should ask him to meet you.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    I met my bf through an online game. We knew each other for quite some time before dating. As of now, we have lived together for almost 7 months. Couldn't be happier.

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    • ifonlyuknew247
      10 years ago

      Did you live in different countries that were far away from each other before you decided to move in together?

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Your boyfriends name wouldn't happen to start with an "M"?

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      • NothingxCrazy
        12 years ago

        Haha. Maybe his internet name is..

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          I'll take that for a no. Well I just thought maybe his name started with an M because I knew someone on WoW who met her boyfriend like that. She also happens to be your age and they also happen to be living together today. Also they knew each other for a while before they were together. So I was just wondering.

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          • NothingxCrazy
            12 years ago

            Nope. Neither of us play WoW. But what are the chances that I'd be the same person? I'm sure we're not the only ones who took that sort of risk.

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            • [Old Memory]
              12 years ago

              1 out of I don't know how many people. But most of the information seemed valid for me to think that it could be her. Oh well. Sorry if I bothered you with my questions.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Sure why not? A lot of relationships start like that today. Some are duds and some work out. I hope yours will work out for the best.

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