Is it normal that i(male)fool around and make out with my butch lesbian friend?

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We met about a year ago and we became fast friends -very platonic.After hanging out with her family and friends it have been apparent that she been gay all her life. She even has a very hot girlfriend that hates me from day one even though her lesbian friends love me.Recently we got a little drunk and we started making out and other stuff. Now she been weird over the phone-like being very distant.When we do meet up(it has to be in secret now(that's her call) she doesn't have her swagger anymore,she just kinda observe me.Just awkward-then we talk about just staying friends plus she's in a serious relationship.Then when we leave it like the longest drawn out goodbye ever- follow by us making out and fooling around until we break away.Honestly as a guy I like the fooling around but kissing her feels like incest(very icky).This happens the last 3x we met up.But now she seem reluctant to see me.Now I just want some spin control advice.How can I spin this back to a normal platonic friendship?

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    12 years ago

    It sounds like it started out as a lark but that you - and perhaps she too - had a real physical reaction.

    The fact that you have to meet up on the sly and that she is being distant as well suggests that her partner may disapprove and possibly feels that if you pair up again she may cheat with you.

    In all honesty, you might not get the friendship back the way you wanted. Although it may have started as just a joke... it sounds like it caused real damage to your friend's relationship with her partner.

    Also... again since you have to meet up and hide it suggests the partner does not approve of you remaining friends. So this could become another breach of trust between the two women.

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  • robbieforgotpw
    11 years ago

    Can a butch be sexy?

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  • Itisok
    11 years ago

    Dude um

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    she is bi if she lets u fuck her and likes it!.. maybe u should stop messing with her for a while see wat she says or does..... maybe ur bi bc ur with a butch girl, maybe u should 4get being friends all together...

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  • piman
    12 years ago

    She may be bi...

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  • Solophonic
    12 years ago

    Just a friendly reminder...a butch will typically wear a strap-on ;)

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    You fool of a Took!

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    She's probably starting to feel awkward about the situation, especially if she's in a serious relationship. Talk to her about it, ask her how she feels and come to a compromise on what you both should do.

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  • stellarbella
    12 years ago

    I dunno if you can. Maybe it requires time and distance between you n then an honest conversation. Messy situation. Good luck

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