Is it normal that i'm worried about sex?

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I am 18 years old and I am terrified about having sex. The only reason I am because mostly because of my body. I think that my body is ugly and it will be so hard to show it to the first guy I have sex with. I have a boyfriend and he just told me I have nothing to worry about but I wanted a girls opinion. Is this something to really worry about or am I just another girl who is worrying about something stupid?

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  • pk101
    12 years ago

    I know you wanted a girls opinion, but want to say there are genuine boys out there who are telling the truth. If he's nice he will love you for you.

    But media make you believe fat and spots is bad, when it isn't! It must be horrible for you girls, spotrs, some hair on ur chin,legs, uneven eyebrows is FINE. And they add to your appearance, cute features!

    personally i think too skinny is horrible, I think a girl with a bit of make up, spots, freckles, UNPLUCKED eyebrows is nice because it is more natural!

    I love my girlfriend for her, and she looks beautiful. It would ruin her appearance if she went to all the effort to remove all the cute features that made her herself :)

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  • Kilolf
    12 years ago

    I believe that all women are beautiful. I think your just unsure of yourself; like buying a car you'll never know how it runs till you take it for a test ride. Just get comfortable with yourself know what it feels like and don't worry your bf won't care what your downstairs looks like. Have faith in yourself and you can do anything.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    it's SO normal to be insecure about your body. especially the downstairs. me and my friends have had conversations about it and all of them think theirs does not look normal or they think it's ugly. i just think once you find the right guy and you are 100% sure, it will be fine. he shouldn't care what it looks like because it has got to be normal since there's nothing wrong with you. but i know what you mean about thinking your body is weird or ugly.

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  • iunderstandyou
    12 years ago

    If you hook up with a nice loving guy who excepts you for who you are you have nothing to worry about :)
    Ps-It is perfectly normal to be worried about sex alot of other people are too.Trust me you are not alone.

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    • heather03
      12 years ago

      Thank you :)

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      • iunderstandyou
        12 years ago

        Im here to help.Thats why I put my username as iunderstandyou cause I help my frieds with there problems and fears and I am really good at it.

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  • WhiteSheepOfTheFamily
    12 years ago

    Totally normal but not totally healthy. Since you aren't overweight (and didn't mention any deformities), this is probably just low self-esteem that you're blaming your appearance for.

    If it gets too bad, maybe counseling would work?

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    • heather03
      12 years ago

      or maybe I am looking for something more than sex. I mean my relationship is great, we both love each other for what is on the inside, its just sometimes I wish we didn't have to talk about sex related stuff or him trying to touch me. I would just love to sit and just talk sometimes and just hold his hand nothing more. Not him even trying to kiss me. I love just talking to him, its everything to me :)

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    LOL what girl doesn't worry about something stupid? We all have our little things we're worried about but really if your bf cares about you he won't mind. Make sure you're ready.

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    • heather03
      12 years ago

      Yeah I know haha. It makes me uncomfortable though that my bf is soo confident in his body that he thinks I am so he tries to put his hand places but I hate it because of my body issues.

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      • lc1988
        12 years ago

        I'd say just let him touch you...the more you see he loves it, the more confidence you'll get.

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      • OddBallBrat
        12 years ago

        Let him touch, but if he starts to go farther and your are not comfy then tell him to stop. dont do anything you dont want to, but you need to get comfy in your own skin cause your keeping in for a while.

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        • heather03
          12 years ago

          Right now though I'm not comfortable with my own self that I can't stand him touching me like that. I would rather have him stop and let me have some space. Is it something I would grow out of though? I am 18, I have thought about that but I am old enough right now that I shouldn't be having these problems. I always feel bad when I tell him to stop but it's so hard to let him go on doing it.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    It really depends on your body. Are you overweight or is something else about your body making you feel insecure? If not than you are worrying for no reason. The key is that you need to feel confident in yourself. That means loving your body and taking good care of it. Good luck and don't worry so much... Everyone is shy at first.

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    • heather03
      12 years ago

      I am not overweight, I only weigh 100. I am just not comfortable with my body yet. My bf did say if I am so worried about my body I need to get some help maybe. I don't think I do because I don't think it's a huge problem, I just thought a lot of girls have the same worries I do.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I LIKE FAT CHICKS AND THEY LIKE ME SO SHUT UP

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    • heather03
      12 years ago

      Your just a jerk.

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