Is it normal that i'm treated unfairly

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My fiance and I have been engaged for almost 2 years, to his mother and step-father I'm treated as an equal family member, to my family he is treated as an equal... but to his dad, step-mother and brother I'm not an equal. Without sounding petty, Christmas has just passed by and my fiance and his brother got $100- $200 worth of presents and i got a box of chocolates, it's not the gift that got me upset but it's really got me thinking 'is this my place?' Is this rude? Or am i being a bit sensitive?

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    It may be the case that you will be an outsider for many years but that they will slowly become strongly loyal to you.

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    • tamh89
      8 years ago

      I really hope so, its been almost 3 years and its like every time i see them is a slap in the face

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    Well... since you aren't part of their family by blood or law that could be the reason they don't treat you like family. Just a guess though.

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    • tamh89
      8 years ago

      I would think since we have taken the step to be engaged it would.mean I'm not going anywhere...
      I understand what you're saying though..

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    Do you guys have a wedding date? If not, that could be why. Fiance has kind of become the new boyfriend/girlfriend so they might just see you as a girlfriend.

    Maybe they have a hard time buying gifts for you because they don't know you very well of the gifts to their sons had more meaning than just monetary.

    Or you could be right and they don't 100% see you as part of the family like legit part of the family. It's not really a big deal.

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    • tamh89
      8 years ago

      We don't have a date set as yet because we plan to buy a house next year, the next steps are marriage and kids and we cannot do either without a house.

      The gifts they gave their sons was money, his older brother got $150 cash plus a bottle of alcohol, and ny partner got $100 cash.

      I understand what you're saying just hurts when my family accepts him so well and i have to go through hoops.

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