Is it normal that i'm transgender, yet don't accept all trans people?

I'm trans and last year I decided to make the step and transition. I'm not very old or anything, but I desperately wanted to wait until I was 18 so that my parents couldn't stop me from doing this. Hormones help a bunch, though they change less stuff than i would like them to.

The thing is, i really cannot stand some other trans people. It got so far i despise using the word "Trans" to describe myself in any way shape or form now. There's way too many of them that are either deluded or think they deserve some special treatment for being trans. Sure i know how hard it is, and i would like support, but I'm not the center of the world.

For the longest time i thought being trans is just some sexual perversion i had, then i tried making myself think that it wasn't even real or that i'm just making it up, tried to make myself think i was straight, so i don't blame people that hate transgenders. It's hard to believe the fact that you're one gender inside the opposite one, it's that way even for me. I just don't get why people use being trans as some "special snowflake-token" and make all trans people seem to like some idiot 60-year-old losers, that never achieved anything and try to escape reality by cross-dressing or something like that. I don't know, it just makes it that much harder for me to find help, that's why it's so troublesome and aggravating for me.

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  • Here's a comparison: "Is it normal that I'm a writer, yet don't accept all other writers?"

    The answer is more apparent. Being a writer, or a trans person in your case, simply means being part of a group with a few notable things in common.

    You're still just people, which means that it's normal to have different beliefs, ways of life, and feelings. You sound down to earth and pretty sensible, which is refreshing.

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  • mauzi

    I feel like a lot of them do it because of some sexual perversion as you say (see: the ones in porn and those who roleplay the opposite sex online, transvestites, etc.), a lot of them are just mentally ill in one way or another, and a small percentage actually do have a stable mind that is more fitting of the opposite sex. I am any one of those btw, partly fetish, partly mental illness, partly more fitting the opposite sex. I don't understand the need for your body to match that superficially, but you all are free to do whatever you want with yourself. There are cringey and awful people in every group, you recognize that and are one of the more self-aware, so you're good

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    • curious-bunny

      Pretty much, alot in the videos do it for finacial gain. Sane with prostitutes like Thailand for example. It can be more profitable to walk the streets then a 9-5 per say. Just one of those things

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  • Not another one.

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  • Columbusbiguy

    I have found some of the least accepting people in this world are members of the LGBTQ, etc., community. For a group who demands equal rights, acceptance and fairness.

    This is right on par with that thinking. We are not a good community of practicing what we preach.

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    • curious-bunny

      Yea the gays are the worst at it far as ive noticed. Most don't like us trannies. Personally I accept everyone till they give me a reason not to. Growing up I was friends with a pedo. He was like any other guy just liked kids. Then one day he sent me photos of little boys. And thats ehen that friendship ended. One 9f those keep your personal life to yourself I'll do the same and we should get along fine. If everyone treated such things like that in life the world would be better off. Sometimes I wonder what happened yo that guy. Probs on prison now. I feel bad for pedos tbh. Imagine liking something that could get you killed or worse. That would be horrible. Poor buggers

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  • leggs91200

    We tend to hold our peers to the highest standards.
    In our case, it is other TG that we hold to some sort of standard.

    So yeah, it is easy to look at a lot of other TG and think, "What the hell are they doing?" I do that but figure it is not my life.

    Most of the ones I have seen but did not know are usually just trying to go about their day like anyone else.

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    • curious-bunny

      Pretty much. I get a few people who approach and ask Mr questions but for the most people don't know, arnt certain or just avoid me. Eother way it's nice

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  • IrishPotato

    Most of them are fucking obnoxious about it.

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  • Goomats

    I totally get you. There are legit trans people, it's a real thing, but in the last few years, it's become a fad.
    You're lucky because in a few years when the fad dies down, you will be living happily and authenically. Meanwhile,all the posers and attention-seekers will be freaking out that they irreparably altered their bodies.

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  • Instastop

    I guess I've been a little transphobic simply because I don't understand it. I feel like I'm becoming more accepting though when people like you are really just open and honest about how you feel instead of demanding I believe or behave a certain way towards them. I know this is not the most coherent of posts, I'm just very confused on the matter.

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  • Thanks for all the nice comments. I thought for sure I would be bashed purely because I admitted to being trans, but it seems people are much less hateful than I thought. I live in a fairly racist and homophobic area, so I guess I'm somewhat used to that type of response instead ^^"

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    • leggs91200

      We do have a couple needle dicks in this place who are trans phobic but but heck no, you are just as welcome here as anyone.
      Most of the stuff we see here is stuff asking ridiculously obvious questions like "Is it normal that I enjoy sex?" I mean no shit sherlock.

      Just like real life, most people do not care either way. I am TG and have not really caught any hell over it here. Usually the hell I catch is over some snide comment i made.

      Though it isn't a TG forum per se but the subject does come up sometimes. So yeah hang out.

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  • curious-bunny

    Whoa youngling first off being trans doesn't affect ones sexual orientation. Hormones can alter it but its not likely. It's usually just a more solid mental accepting of your orientation. And hormones change a shit ton. They all but change your genitals and chromosomes, have you even looked into what they do at what time lines? Fucking kids.. Hormones are one of the essences of life. The rest I can understand. Some trans people are toxicity. Personally im proud to be trans. Do I wish I wasn't and that I was born properly? Of course but I'm not and I accept it and I'm proud of it.ypull get older sone day kid and understsnd. And not even alot will be needed hell I'm only 21, alot changes especially mentally in the years ahead of you especislly woth a second puberty on your way. Be ready for weird changes. For example I actually sweat now. It was like my go And were on low setting before but now is on normal for the average person.

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    • I think you misread. It doesn't say anywhere that it affects sexual orientation.

      I used to hold that in correlation with one another when I was younger and tried to deny it, but I know being trans doesn't mean that somebody likes a certain gender or whatnot.

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      • curious-bunny

        You said something about wanting to be straight. There's where I got that from.

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        • leggs91200

          Hey Bunny while you are here -
          Ok so you are in the new generation of adults. You have also maybe seen those videos on youtube with these really pretty passable TG who are out and proud. What I want to know is why they would "out" themselves when they clearly do not need to? They could pass for GG just fine but then get on the web and say, "hey, guess what I am...?"

          If I passed that completely, I would never tell anyone.

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          • curious-bunny

            It is crazy ain't it? I mean i pass a decent chunk but nothibg like they do so i feel you. Well if I had to put forward a strong opinion I would say it's cause in my generation it's kind of a norm thing thing to be yourself, tines are getting more accepting and the like (Still dangerous of course though) I would also say a bit of vanity and attention seeking is going on there. Being a guy growing up man i was an ugly ass duckling and was completely ignored by society, well i still have those sane trauts i devolveped cause of it yet suddenly people see me. The attention can be a pull and the flattery can be more powerful than alchol. So I'm sure for some it's something like that. Some are definitly trying to help people. Remember when you were younger and worried about that whole passing thing? Sure it'll always be there but on the end you don't think about it or notice anymore your just free so i would say sone are trying to teach to not worry about it just rock it and beauty eill findfind you. Outside of that well money Maybe? I dont know if YouTube still pays people wh o are popular and beibg trans is a golden ticket now days. Otherwise I hot nothing. No evidence no st ring accusations. Just opinions affected by my own veiws and experinces. Sorry I can't really be of help there.

            But yea its crazy. I can't say I wouldn't do it eother but thats cause of some of my more mature interests of online but if it wasn't for that I wouldn't want a soul to know. Wpuld be so much safer

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  • TheBlindInquisitor

    Depends.

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  • Welcome to the real world, it’s tough and full of emotions that don’t help

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    • Eh, I've been here long enough to know it tbh.

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