Is it normal that i'm thinking about putting my 3 year old up for adoption

It seems very selfish what you are saying here. I understand that you want to experience new things but I believe that you can't just give up your son to do so. I think once you have a kid you have to make sacrifices in your own life to give your kid the best life that you can.

Have you ever had a vacation from your son? Try to do something you did before you became a parent to remind yourself that you are still you and you can enjoy life. Just try to do that every once in a while. I have a 3 year old as well, and I do get depressed about being stuck in routine and feeling held back. I am in school, but I can't do any of the extra things like volunteer, attend lectures, study abroad, join clubs etc. because those things would take away from me being a parent. I'm not working right now, but I know some people can balance work, school and family. Maybe you could go to school part time and work part time. The colleges where I live have daycare centers with vouchers or sometimes free child care. Financial Aid helps too. If you seriously have no help don't be afraid to get government assistance. Some people actually deserve that shit.

Sorry to hear of your situation. It's understandable to have these thoughts, but don't do something you'd regret. Can you really see your future without your son in it? : / There must be a middle ground... any friends or relatives who could have your son sometimes? Maybe every other weekend? Or one day and night a week? That's if he'd be cool with it. Also, a lot of colleges should have childcare facilities? I can see why life must be difficult sometimes, but to have your own child in this life is a beautiful thing. So don't do anything you will regret... try to look forward as well as at the now.

He won't be three forever. These are hard years. You will be in your mid 30's when he is a teen and you will regret with every fiber of your being that you gave him up for some momentary fun.

Think long and hard about this because it cannot be undone the abscence from your child could consume you.

What would you say to him when he tracks you down 15-20 years later and asks you why didn't you want me?

Later in life you will understand that everything that was important in your life was your son. Everything else does not matter. It's just an illusion of "happiness". Don't do something that you will regret I'm your life. In other words no son and also could not really enjoy the life because you will realize that it's not what you thought it would be.

At the same time, if you hold on to your son and do not change your mindset about life and him, then I would be concerned for him..

Children need not be an impediment to having a great life.
I raised my daughter sailing around the world, living my dream. She grew up to be a wonderful person, happy and productive.
If you could leave your son w/ your mom for a short while and restructure your life and find a job you like, perhaps you can bring him home and you two can have a great time together.
College is a good idea, but w/ internet schooling available it shouldn't be too much of a problem finding time to do everything you want to do in life.

Give him up for adoption while he is young. If you are going to do it don't drag it out. Put him with a family that will love him and care for him.

Maybe you could talk to your mother about it? (Assuming she's a healthy and caring adult!) Having her take some of the weight of motherhood of you and help you babysit.

Whilst she's taking care of your kid you could try to take care of yourself.

All these fuckers that make u feel bad about doing it have done nothing but talk. None have adopted children, supported one, or even done more than make others feel like shit. Do what you need to as long as the child will be safe.

Too bad it's a son and not a daughter. I'd buy, I mean adopt her if he were a she. Sigh.....

Kids are a blessing not a curse! You chose to have him! Bringing up a child isn't easy but there's more rewards than sacrifices! Suck it up n stop being so selfish! Your meant to realise when you have a child that you come second! Look at his face or watch him sleep, could you really abandon him?!

I think putting him up for adoption seems so difficult and you wouldn't feel good about it. You've been with him for three years, 24/7 right? You can't just make him disappear now!

But I agree you should go to college, to be able to give your kid a better life as well. You could maybe go to a college nearby so you can be home all weekends and some other days, but you'd need help with the kid, even if he goes to kindergarten or whatever, he needs love :( maybe your parents could help you too.

In actually feeling much better. I started taking my antidepressants again. Thanks guys. I really do appreciate the support. Sometimes u just new someone to listen :)

You are 22 and you ask such a stupid question? Never mind the father, the answer is bleedingly obvious. Stand up and be counted amongst folks who cared for their children. If the father doesn't help, go find a lawyer and drag the fucker through court. Depression or not, the most important thing is the welfare of your child. Go watch some programmes about people who gave up kids and 99.9% of them regretted it. They emotionally damaged their children. Pluck up the courage and raise your kid, when he starts school, just go find a part time job, enroll at college, and whatever you do, don't open your legs to any man until you are sure (either that or use some fucking contraception)

that 3 year old boy is your son nobody hates there children you lov him dearly and you should be like that don't put your son in adoption just o experience stuff its the worst thin you could do

@tommythecat ur immature gtfoh!!