Is it normal that i'm such a concerned sister?

I am writing this post, because I am very worried about my sister and her relationship with her boyfriend. They have been on an off again for almost a year now and they seem very happy together. When I met my sisters boyfriend, he was very polite, friendly and easy to talk to. I told my sister you found a great guy don't lose him, but as their relationship grew his true colors came out. She told me that he is a pot smoker. Smokes pot everyday: in the morning before work, on his lunch, after work, while he plays video games and right before he goes to bed. She told me if he doesn't have pot then he gets real angry.

We just went on vacation to a water park this year and i witnessed his temper there with her. They had been in the lazy river just floating on inner tubes having a good time and there was this sprinkler that shot out water and he was pushing her towards there and she didn't want to get her hair wet so she jumped out of the inner tube and just said no i don't want to get wet. Well he took this the wrong way and started yelling at her. He told her that she was no fun and needed to change her attitude. So she comes and finds me and tells me that she doesn't want to be around him, so we go on a walk to talk. She's crying to me saying what did i do wrong. I told her you didn't do anything wrong he has an anger problem. She just started crying. Then he comes walking really fast towards us saying why are you walking away from me we need to talk. So we go back and I go with her because I am worried for her. He just starts yelling at the top of his lungs saying why do you always have to do this to me, you always do this blame me for stuff I didn't do. etc etc. This carried on for at least 20 minutes. Finally I tell my sister lets go swim and let him cool off. So as were getting up he gets up and grabs her arm and says your not going anywhere your staying with me so we can talk. She is crying and just trembling. Then she told me let me just talk to him by myself so I left, but still keeping her in my sight. After that everything was fine with them.

There also has been other numerous amounts of times where I have been with her out to eat or shopping and he calls her cursing at her for no reason. He even has to know where she is at all times and is always with her. My parents also do not like him at all. Is he a nice boyfriend only when he's on the pot or does he need anger management counseling or medication. Am I being too concerned for my sister? Please if anyone has any answers or suggestions I am open to hear anything.

Thank you,

Concerned Sister

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Based on 54 votes (30 yes)
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  • shade_ilmaendu

    I don't think the weed is the problem here.

    I think the problem here is your sisters bf is a douche.

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    • Justsomejerk

      I'd go as far as to say its the solution.

      He has issues though. She should trade him in.

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  • Kitten33

    I accidentally voted no.. I meant that he's not normal. She should dump him before this gets worse.

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul

    who goes to a water park to not get wet? i'd probably yell at her too, no good rotten fun-sucker.

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  • CheyChey

    seems like an abusive relationship all the patterns are there, & the thing with abusers is that the victim your sister in this case will keep cutting him some slack because he's a different person every time he gets help for his anger it seems things have changed he messes up begs for forgiveness & a mean cycle starts. your sister should leave his sorry ass a leopard will never change it's spots, with that being said truth is only she can make that decision to leave him you can voice out your opinions, beg her, your parents & family might do the same but it's her choice & often times the person stays only to be subjected to years of turmoil which is sad.

    goodluck to your sister

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  • VioletTrees

    It seems like he has some serious anger issues, yeah. I think it's normal for you to be concerned.

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  • Austinsmith7

    It seems like the guy has some serious problems and the pot just covers it up. You're doing the right thing.

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  • Defintely something wrong with him. She shouldn't be with him, he is obviously putting her through hard times.

    My opinion is to get her away from him and try get him some help so he can't do it to the next girl.

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  • tori

    Just because she loves him doesn't mean he is good for her. She really needs to dump him. And fast. I'm glad you are concerned. It will take the whole family to surround her in love and let her know she won't be missing much when she leaves him She's got to feel what real love is. Then she will realize he should be history.

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  • PalestinianGuy

    Tell him to fuck off, if he doesn't, call the police.

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  • Boo!

    You need to make her get rid of that good for nothing boyfriend she deserves better!

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  • Scooter17

    Thank you everyone for your responses : ) I hope I can convince her he is not good for her

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  • myboyfriendsbitch

    Lmao at the first paragraph....sorry. I get angry when i don't have pot too.

    If i did this to my bf it wouldn't be that big a deal. Yeah, he shouldn't manhandle her or anything, but i do wonder what his side of the story is.

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