Is it normal that i'm only attracted to asian guys?

Okay, I'm 18, and I don't know why it is, but I'm only attracted to Asian (Japanese, Korean etc) guys. In fact, I can't get a crush on a guy if he's not Asian. I don't know why it is, but I have an idea. I've always thought of them as mysterious and I find that attractive, also I love their features, like their hair, and their eye-shape. I think their eyes are more defined than other races. That, and I discovered anime and the culture and started learning Japanese 3 years ago and plan on learning Korean. They always tend to be more polite, shy, and respectful than most westerners. I'm not generalizing, obviously there are some that are jerks, but I'm talking about generally.
But, it has turned into a bit of a problem, because I recently moved with my parents into a rural area where there are no Asian people or even other races. :( In fact, the closest you can get is the next town where you see an occasional black person but that's it. I live in a little village and there's just a few elderly people and not many people of my age, and there were no Asians at my college either.
What can I do? I don't want to be seen as racist but I feel like I'll never find love. I found a Japanese pen friend online but he lives in Australia so I can't see him in real life. So, my question is this, is it normal?
Thanks you for taking the time to read my post, I feel like such a freak and so alone...

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Based on 238 votes (199 yes)
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  • modernism

    It's normal to like the way a certain race looks, but make sure you don't dive into obsession.

    Racial preference is normal if it's like, "I typically find ____ attractive, but I'm open to considering everyone as individuals." It gets hella shallow and sort of senseless if it gets to the point where you find yourself saying, "I would never even think of dating anyone if they're not _____."

    Race simply dictates physical aspects. Personality has nearly nothing to do with it. Culture? Maybe. But not personality.

    As long as you know that people have way more to offer than their race, you'll be fine.

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    • It's easier said than done :( It's not something I have decided, and it's not just a phase. And I just can't find other races attractive, I don't know wny but I can't get a crush on them unless they're Asian... I know it sounds wrong, but I also have no control over this...

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      • modernism

        Okay. I'm not blaming you for anything. It may be irrational, but if you can't control it then I guess that's the way it has to be. Just be open-minded - let's say a guy who isn't Asian romantically approaches you with simple conversation. Try not to automatically think, "nope, not gonna work". Talk a bit, you never know if this guy could end up being crazy amazing for you even if you can't see it at the time.

        Like who you like, but try not to close the rest of the world off. :)

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        • I'll be friends with non-Asian guys, obviously, I have loads of guys who are friends who are non-Asian, but I just couldn't imagine dating any of them... There would always be something missing :/

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          • also I wouldn't go out with someone if I'm not attracted to them, I don't see the point. I also have Asperger's

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            • modernism

              That is what I'm saying - just because you "couldn't imagine dating any of them" doesn't mean they aren't a good match for you. Don't let your bias's cloud your judment.

              You having Asperger's is irrelevant - you're human with or without it. But the sentence that you said that worries me is that you don't see the point. What that tells me is that physical attraction is all that matter to you. Again, you won't be dating that person's race - you'll be dating that person's personality. Realize that - you can have preferances and still give others a chance.

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  • sulli94

    "I'm not generalizing, obviously there are some that are jerks, but I'm talking about generally. "

    But that is generalizing. It also seems like you've become caught up in a sort of orientalism fetishization situation because of what you see from media. I personally don't think one can simply know a culture from what they get from a small outlet of media that isn't even always presented by that culture or for the people of it. Tbh you're just being fed a market strategy by entertainment bussinesses that only harms these dudes you think you know and love. Don't let something like ethnicity be a deal breaker ad to whether or not someone is worth your time, because then you're determining people's worth by something they literally have no control over. I assume you're from a small town which is why your idea of what the archetype asian guy looks like is so close minded(not saying that to be insulting) but there are numerous countries in asia, and you seem to only know the media created idea of guys. I suggest going to the countries not to release all of your gross fetish ideals, but for a wake up call.

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    • But people like you always make assumptions... You seem to misunderstand, you fail to realise I also have no control over who I am attracted to, and it's not just about culture, but physically as well. I simply can't find another race attractive.
      and btw, it's not just anime and media I get my knowledge from, but I have read loads of stuff on the internet from Asian guys or white girls that have dated Asain guys and they all say that they are more polite/shy overall, because of the way their culture is. I know guys are the same everywhere, but culture does shape how they act and behave.

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      • Arm0se

        Thank you! Finally someone gets it!

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        • yay!.. Gets what?

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          • Arm0se

            You can't help what turns you on.

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            • Exactly!

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  • OshanafromEkai

    I would say it's normal to an extent. I'm similar to you in that I find many East Asian men physically attractive, but I fall for shy people in general (their ethnicity doesn't matter) BUT I also fall for people who speak a language other than English (usually an East Asian language but it honestly doesn't matter. Any language really)

    So pretty normal I guess! If not then I'm weird to! Hahaha!

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  • DatuOx

    It could be your genetics naturally telling you to procreate with someone out of your race to strengthen your genetics for future offspring.

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    • I've always thought this could be a reason... To widen the gene pool, etc
      because actually this might be completely unrelated, but my eye sight isn't that good in sunlight but isn't that why Asians have that extra fold? Not sure, but maybe my kids would not have that problem? Makes sense

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  • yvanchiyuck

    You say 'They always tend to be more polite, shy, and respectful than most westerners'.

    But if a westerner is shy and polite he'll probably be weak and boring to you. I bet.

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  • anti-hero

    Well the way I see it you can take one of two roads one is full of snakes and the other is only imaginary, if you know what I mean.

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    • how so?

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  • other guys may as well just be girls to me. That's how strong my feelings are, and I want to follow my heart. And also I have never had a boyfriend before. I know I didn't mention this in the post, but I even made up an imaginary boyfriend called Yukiyashi because I fel so alone... I write stories about him and write comics about him, and sometimes I talk to him and pretend to cuddle him and even make out with him and stuff... It's embarrassing and I know it sounds really sad but that's how I feel.

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  • p1oneday

    Sound like youre in Norfolk, go find a Filipino or Korean and mate, so someone else doesnt have this problem

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    • I'm in Cornwall

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  • dytrog

    I don't care who you are atractted to. Ther is only one race on earth. It's called human.

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  • BennyTheBunny

    Every1 delete your comments an let shuggy handle this 1.

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    • shuggy-chan

      hahaha <3 i just saw this

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