Is it normal that i'm jealous because i'm a virgin and he's not?

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Lately, this has really been bothering me . I know I shouldn't be upset but Its am. He's seven years older than me and slept with two girls before he even knew I existed. I love him so much and we're even talking about getting married, but the point is, I saved my virginity for my future husband hoping that he'd save himself for me too. But I can't help who I fall in love with

BTW, I never felt this way about a guy before, so its real :).

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Who cares about virginity, go with him because you love him

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    • NeverHadPorkB4
      7 years ago

      Aren't you Muslim

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      • sandnigga
        7 years ago

        you a muslim too? lol by looking at your account name haha

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        • NeverHadPorkB4
          7 years ago

          Yeah I am

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          • sandnigga
            7 years ago

            oh thats cool :)

            i know two muslim girls, but no im not muslim lol

            i just like this name XD haha

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Just be thankful you get to lose your virginity to someone you actually love and loves you in return. It's one of the most fondest memories you'll have for the rest of your life; A LOT of people, probably your boyfriend too, can't say the same for their first.

    Plus, it's great being with an experience man, because they have more patience and excellent self-control. They don't have that, "YEAH! I'm going to do her like the sluts I see in porn!!!" kind of mentality.

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  • Curiousme1981
    7 years ago

    Don't save yourself for your husband have fun before you get married take it from someone who did..your will always wonder what it's like .

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    • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
      7 years ago

      Finally the truth from someone brave enough to speak it.

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  • Cocomilktitties
    7 years ago

    I think it's totally normal to feel that way. I think it is something that you will have to either accept or not accept. If you saved your V-Card for religious reasons or it was/is somehow really, really important to you, then I think you should really think about it. If it's not all that important to you and it's more of like a jealousy thing where you feel jealous that he has had sex and you haven't yet and that he will always have had sex with at least 3 people and you only 1, then that is also something you will have to consider.

    I think once you identify why you feel that way about the situation, you can decide if it is something that you can emotionally overcome or not. And if you do decide to accept it, you will need to really be okay with it. Because it's not good to have resentment in a relationship.

    I also think that you could tell him, in a nice way, how you feel about it. It might make you feel better if he knows.

    I mean I will say that... 7 years older than you? .... So I'm going to assume he's at least 27. In that age range of people, it's really hard to come across people who you are attracted to who haven't had sex. I mean it's possible, but it's not all that many people. 2 people at that age is not too bad compared to a lot of people.

    But I totally get where you are coming from. I would feel the same way probably. I think it's nice when people can wait for the right person and have it be like that, but I guess that's not the way it always happens. It's nice that you have done that, though.

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    • NeverHadPorkB4
      7 years ago

      You're right. Its better than him sleeping with over 10 people. Thanks

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  • riffraffy
    7 years ago

    Not normal, unless you're gay. Higher partner count increases a man's value, while it reduces a woman's. For a man mating is a result of charm, skill and status. For a woman it is more a matter of lacking self-control.

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    • Rusty-Rider
      7 years ago

      Nonsense! You are full of crap.

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    • Lifeistooshorttotakeseriously
      7 years ago

      What a load of shit! All it took for you to get laid was for a woman to say yes. It's not about your charm or skill or your status. 99% of men think they are skilled lovers and 98.9% of them have no idea. It's amazing how optimistic the female species is to say yes. Lack of self control or biology? It may surprise you to know but sex is supposed to be enjoyable for women. It's why we let you stay the night!!! Because we wake up in the morning and think "Surely he couldn't have been that bad?! So we try again...yes I stand corrected he's hopeless" it's that damn estrogen. We keep forgetting on purpose how bad you are so the species can continue.

      What this girl is thinking is total normal. For a girl!!!

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      • riffraffy
        7 years ago

        Not sure I'm following your point too well. Never argued that sex wasn't fun for women. I'll try to clarify my original post. Let's say there are two groups of people: those you are attracted to, and everyone else.

        For women, they're much pickier than men when it comes to their 'attracted to' group. The nerd with acne isn't going to be there, and neither is the boring average joe who's married and balding.

        In contrast, men will have sex with mostly any woman if she isn't morbidly obese or disfigured or otherwise disgusting.

        Because of this difference, a man who attracts (and sleeps with) lots of women is inherently higher value than a woman who attracts (and sleeps with) lots of men. Higher value includes that charm, skill and status I mentioned. Hope that clears things up.

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  • darausnicht
    7 years ago

    I was Catholic and we had this "technically a virgin" thing. bisexual men had a variant of it too.

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  • Tempest-au
    7 years ago

    He's 27 and slept with 2 women? I'd lost count by that age! Not that I'm saying I'm "better" than anyone here, but 2 @ 27 really is almost nothing.

    Plus, at least he (hopefully) won't be totally incompetent in bed now. You might even enjoy your first sexual experience with him. Probably not, because you have little idea what makes your own body sing, but you can at least hope. If he was a virgin too, not a chance.

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