Is it normal that i'm in love with my best friend who has a girlfriend? :(

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long story short: I'm a girl in college, became friends with this boy the first week of our freshman year and friend zoned him, when he consistently started hooking up with the same girl then i kind of realized i might have feelings for him, we stayed best friends and my feelings developed into something a lot more, he seemed jealous of other guys sometimes but i couldn't tell, he visited me and stayed with me during the summer, then i transferred but we stayed super close and i visit and were going on a trip in april together, he's still dating this girl though and its been a little over a year for them but i just can't get over him even trying to distract myself with other people. we've never kissed or anything. a relationship between us would be very impractical though. i don't think he has anything super special with this girl but they have a healthy relationship and like keeping each other company. i don't want to tell him how i feel but I'm afraid of passing up an opportunity and then we grow apart. help i know I'm being dramatic but ugh

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  • Pinger
    8 years ago

    Tell him that you've been thinking about him and that you are grateful for his friendship. If it was a different time and place that you would give it a shot

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    8 years ago

    You're only torturing yourself by staying friends and telling him how you feel will only make things worse. You need to forget about this person and meet someone else.

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  • anitaweiner
    7 years ago

    update, i confessed, the feelings are totally mutual, were still really close it probably saved our friendship actually, but theres nothing we can do about it right now since we live 2500 miles apart currently

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  • anitaweiner
    8 years ago

    u guys are right shit

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  • Crow
    8 years ago

    Eh, kinda normal.

    Blame yourself for not making any moves on him while he was single. Respect that he's taken regardless of how "special" his relationship is or not - it's not your call. Realise that confessing is probably only going to drive a wedge into your friendship. His girlfriend will probably be wary of you, too.

    You've got the physical distance. It'll be easier to make the emotional distance.

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    • anitaweiner
      8 years ago

      so you're saying let it go and start distancing myself?

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      • Crow
        8 years ago

        No, start splitting atoms, Rutherford.

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