Is it normal that i'm in love w/ a married man and about to marry someone else?

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I met this handsome man at work. At that time he was just a very desired bachelor around. We had a great relationship that started as friendship and became something else. We were dating for about a year and a half. Then, last September, I called my boss on a ordinary sunday, or so I thought, to ask her some work related questions. There, I was informed that she was at his wedding. Yes, he was marrying someone else. Through gossip, I learned that he had met this girl two months before and had decided to get marry. He obviously didn't show up to work the next Monday. And he didn't wear his wedding ring until two months after the wedding. Now, the situation is that he claims to be in love with me like he always was. He pretends that everything is normal and the same. He claims to love me and doesn't understand that he is married! And Hell no, things are not the same. we've had romantic scenes that go out of the ordinary, an affair. But now I'll be getting married in a couple of months with someone else: with the hope that I will forget him. I love him but I don't want this game; in which he marries whoever he wants expecting me to be still be there. What do you think, should I just get marry and move on with my life? Should I marry this perfect human being I'm not in love with just to forget the other? the questions are many.

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  • BfingIToucher
    12 years ago | pl

    None of this is love.

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago

    You should staple your vagina shut and he should laminate his testicles. Don't reproduce.

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  • ygrowup
    12 years ago

    I do not see a bright future for either of you! Good luck with your choices!

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Yeah I would actually move away and start over too much drama here!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    toss everything in, leave work , break up with fiance and start again

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  • Pendletongurl
    12 years ago

    Were you seeing this guy while you were with your fiance? If that is the case, you weren't being honest with your fiance. The ex wasn't honest with you either, more than likely he will cheat on his wife. those two wrongs won't right this one. You are obviously not seeing the guy now since september of last year, but if the ex can move on, so can you. And you have a great guy there, Alot of women would kill to be in your position. Chemistry is okay, but in the long run, communication is key. Work on it.

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  • Pendletongurl
    12 years ago

    Your fiance deserves better. You want to marry this man, do it for the right reasons not the wrong ones. The guy expecting you to wait in the wings is playing a head game. Don't fall into it. Examine your heart. Talk to your fiance. If you were cheating on him with this man, you aren't giving him any reason to trust you. I have made my share of mistakes, but I had to learn from that one. I felt like an idiot. So wish this guy well, and move on. The feelings won't go away overnight, but they will go away in time. In the meantime if your fiance is a good man, recognize it, tell him so. Tell him thank you, I appreciate you. Tell him I love you. And don't waste energy being jealous of his past. He can't change it. But be smart and learn from this. You will be happier in the long run.

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  • kyanviado
    12 years ago

    Revenge is a dish best served cold! Well usually except your dish is quite hot. He married to mrs x, having a relationship with you. It kind of makes me wonder if there is also a mrs z hiding there in his closet. To marry another man to forget the mr perfect is not love in any way I see it. More like you are hurting because of his marriage and I understand. Forget mr perfect because he is lying to you. Move on from him find a guy who you truly love than marry him because you love him not to escape from a pain of a hurtful relationship

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I can kind of understand that you were with this man and suddenly find out that he's become married to someone else. What I can't understand is how you've maintained another relationship with someone you feel strongly enough about to marry. I also can't understand how little the person you're about to marry figures in your question. He might as well not exist. Are you really sure you want to marry him? I mean this for his sake, as much as for yours.

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  • imustbnutz
    12 years ago

    He is a Dog and you are a Bitch! Simply put you do not deserve the guy that wants to marry you. And this 'Mr Perfect' would probably cheat on you too..Wake up to yourself woman!

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  • MissWhip
    12 years ago

    What you you are doing isn't fair.

    You aren't playing with just you own heart here.

    Don't stick your head in the sand and sort stuff out.

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  • mumbum
    12 years ago

    He sounds far too complex and this is screwing up your ability to judge the situation with clarity... Forget both men. It is not going end well with either of them.

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  • gako
    12 years ago

    The both of you should be ashamed of yourselves.

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  • istrawberry
    12 years ago

    Don't marry someone just so you can get over someone else. You are just a selfish, heartless bitch. Get a life!

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