Is it normal that i'm in a relationship & i don't know if i still like/love him

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Is it normal that i'm in a relationship, and i don't really know if i still love or like him anymore?
i mean, i like him....but when another guy gives me attention, i can ignore my boyfriend for hours... and i don't feel sorry for that.. but when i'm not with him, i miss him, but when i'm with him i don't really have feelings for him anymore... i guess i want his attention, cause i feel lonely.... but i dont wanna lose him.... i dont know what to do.........

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Time to break up and stop being a wuss, using him.

    You know you want other guys so cut this one loose. Don't be needy and use him letting him think you're still in love/like with him.

    That's not fair to him and not good for you.

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    • MissesAnonymous23
      10 years ago

      Huh, I actually agree with you for once... Go figure : )

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        Heh.

        Should I go buy a lottery ticket?

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        • MissesAnonymous23
          10 years ago

          50/50 split, sounds good to me.

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  • driedroses
    10 years ago

    That's how I felt at the end of my last relationship, right before I broke up with my bf.

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    10 years ago

    Is it that unbearable to be alone for a little while? Your not gonna die.

    I mean shit just cause you don't have a bf doesn't mean you cant have friends to keep you company.
    Did you forget family too?

    Do that poor guy a favour please.

    Your not gonna die of a little loneliness, don't worry. Everyone gets lonely sometimes. Everyone.
    DOES NOT mean your gonna be alone forever. Never.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      "Everyone gets lonely sometimes. Everyone."

      I dunno about that.

      I pretty much never get lonely. Well, not normally anyway. I tend to like being alone because most people annoy the shit out of me.

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  • painisweakness
    10 years ago

    I had that same situation for a while with a boy. After I finally dumped him, I realized I was lying to myself that I 'missed' him while he wasn't there, and was in half-denial all along.
    IMO, you miss the relationship you two had before; you don't miss HIM per se. You don't deserve faking affection. Let him know how you feel.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Your relationship is over. He doesn't deserve that fickleness. It's normal for things to become less passionate, that's when people figure out if they connect on a more fundamental level. You however, are giving other guys attention "for hours." It's basically already giving up. Let him go.

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  • ifonlyuknew247
    10 years ago

    Let him know you're not that interested anymore, and see how he reacts. If you don't want to do that, that means you are keeping him around as a security blanket, which is immature and selfish. If you're afraid he's going to leave you or want to date other people, then think about what you're doing and stop being a hypocrite. If you feel less and less attracted and it's been over a long period of time, that's one thing. But if it's just because it's past the honeymoon phase and you're bored, confused, or you need more attention than one person can devote to you, think about if you want to lose him or not, and if you would care/be happy if he were doing what you're doing and felt the way you felt when he's not around you and around other girls getting female attention. If that thought upsets you, that means you should stop doing it yourself if you care about him or tell him the truth and risk losing him.

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