Is it normal that i'm immensely turned on by my boyfriend when he cries?

This is not cool, sweetie. Not even kinda.

And I'm not talking about his crying - he's allowed. But apparently, when that does happen, it is under a significant level of duress and anguish (and I suspect that the cause of the argument/conflict is all the more amplified by the HORRIBLE fact you threaten to leave him in the midst of it all! And "I'm just angry," is NO EXCUSE).

And while I'm so glad for you (not really) that his crying sessions give you the wet-n-stickys, I am now forced to wonder if you do it on purpose? And by that, I don't necessarily mean you consciously act this out (though, I wouldn't be surprised, frankly), but more that you seek this level of emotional exchange because that is what you get off on/reaffirms you/makes you feel secure/or whatthefuckEVER it is. Either way, every time, you're killing him inside a little bit more. So remember that next time you transform apedestrian spat into a nuclear yield explosion just so you can feel the f*cking love and get your jollies.

You *say* you love him... but then you'll threaten your departure when the shit gets too thick? Or what? He says something mean? Love is not something you can recall or a take away like a treat for a dog. This, what you're doing, that's not love. That's manipulation. That's you putting him in crisis-mode because of your own issues, just so you can feel better about... whatever. It's what we do to the people we say we love that defines us and matters most - consider that next time you decide to ruin him for an evening.

Shame on you... for treating something so special and precious as 'love' with such malice. Like so many others, you are undeserving of such a gift. But THAT, after all, IS the lesson you are charged to learn. And as it seems now, entirely @ your boyfriend's expense.

Do yourselves a favor: work on yourself and figure out WHY his emotional destruction gets you off (and no, it's not 'normal,') and/or leave him. No one should be forced to remember "love" in a such a painful and helpless way. Good luck to you. I pity you both.

//T

This does not sound normal.
Maybe you just have enjoy having power over him.
Youl like to make him cry then make him feel better. You are playing with his emotions.

I'm not sexually turned on when my boyfriend cries.. I'm more of an "aw..don't cry." wipe his tears person, but hey, maybe that's what turns you on. :o

I bet you're a Scorpio

Normal, and I like it, well done.

Maybe you like his sensitive side?

That sounds a bit abusive. I think my boyfriend is adorable when he cries, but I don't like making him cry. If I make him cry I feel like a total bitch and just snuggle the crap out of him. Which is a very loving feeling, but not a turn on...?? You might be a bit abnormal

I suppose it's sort of normal, since lot of people get turned on when guys show their soft side. I think it gets to us because we get to see a part of them they usually keep hidden. if you start making him cry just for this purpose that would be extremely wrong of you though.

If it's not a control thing and you don't mean to make him cry, I think it's very understandable! Perhaps you find it attractive because, as other people have said, he is showing depth and how he cares for you. That can be very appealing. Of course, you should never belittle his feelings because you see them as endearing. From what I understand it doesn't sound like you do.

my boyfriend just cried in front of me for the first time the other day. it didn't turn me on but i saw him in a different light. I can totally imagine getting turned on by this.

Boy, you'd better keep him, because no one else will want him.

Most women are alright w/ men crying once in a while- has to be legit- like severe crisis-- but a regular crybaby? Hell, I'd think THEY would be annoyed seeing US cry all the time...

NO, it is not a turn on.

Wow .. sounds like you like to put power on him! haha .. no offense at all .. as i do that sometiems but my boyfriend doens't cry .. i remember him cried one time . and it was when i was leaving back to texas and he woudln't say nothing and he woudl cry .. (i was leaving him (i htought)) and well .. 2 weeks later I came back .. lol but like that doesn't relay have to do anythign with a turn on but it's normal i mean .. i've heard of peopl elike that .. but him .. just dont' make him cry too much makes it sounds kinda depressiing

Well, maybe you're seeking the vulnerability a person shows when they cry. I agree with the comment above, you're both very passionate to say the least. But I don't think any turn on can be considered natural- since it's all a matter of personal preference. There could be a number of reasons why you like the thought of him- or any man for that matter, crying. As far as being out of the norm, I don't think so. If if you're that curious as to why, I'd go to a specialist on the matter who might be able to help you understand why this is such a turn on, instead of whether it's normal or not, since it's quite normal.
I hope I could help!

that's certainly interesting

Don't worry, I dated a guy before my current bf who was very strong and rough on the outside and held the weight of the world (taking care of 5 younger siblings w/no parents) on his shoulders and we had an amazingly passionate relationship and the first time I ever saw him cry was for me because we were arguing. Just the sight of him crying for me turned me on sooo much because he always so rough to everyone else and no one else really ever saw him cry, so for him to share something like that w/ me was amazing so, I feel ya =D

hey.... this is what my wife does to me... but the sad thing is i don't get sex afterwards....

Cool

it shouldnt be a turn on i think you feel empowered by making him cry and get off on the power of it

Normal. I like it too, or if he makes me upset.

i always want to cuddle my bf if we fight and he cries but not so much as turned on... only wen we fight n get angry ;)

sounds normal its just something that turns you on basically like a fetish, but its normal to think its not normal , like i dont think its normal that i get turned on by chicks toes curling when they have an orgasm, but it is its a natural thing that goes through our brains

oh.. I dont know.. I can't stand crying.. I might leave.. yes I'm not very compassionate lol

Wow, you guys sure are....passionate :)

I feel the opposite. I am turned on by my boyfriend when we're fighting but if he cries (which is very rare) I'm turned off.

Evil.