Is it normal that i'm avoiding my bf?

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So lately I have been avoiding my bf. The reason is I have fellings for his stepbrother. So when Im in the same room with both of them I get knots on my stomach. My bf told me that his stepbrother had a crush on me. I told him that I had fellings for him. My bf got mad at me and wouldn't speak to me. I told him that I was sorry and he forgave me. But now he acts all weird when all three of us are together. Sometimes he will be like go spend time with your new boyfriend. Or he will be like just break up with me now so you guys can be together. I want to break up with him because he is being such and ass. But at the same time I don't want to because I love him and he was the first person I had sex with. So I have been avoiding him. He calls me I don't answer, same thing when he texts me. So is that normal or should I just talk to him?

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  • WLEM
    7 years ago

    You told him you have feelings for his step brother..... Who does that???? Obviously it's affecting him so normally he behaves weird when you three are together.

    He's not being an ass. Imagine if he told you he likes your stepsister (imagine you have a step sister), how would you feel, especially when the three of you are together??? I'm sure you didn't do anything to reassure him that you love him only, so he found it difficult to trust you (hence the statements "go and be with your boyfriend" and all that). He's not being an ass. Its normal that he acted that way

    The fact that you think he's an ass and being unreasonable by acting that way just goes to show how selfish and insensitive you are.

    You like his brother but you love him.......hmmmm SMH. Anyway whatever you say. If you want to b with him (as you say), then show him he's the one you really care about. If you don't want to be with him anymore, break up with him and stop hurting him so much.

    Truth is being with him won't last because you have already created a rift in the relationship by telling him you like his brother. The trust which has been broken may never be mended. He may forever doubt your feelings for him. Such a relationship may not last long.

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    • sandnigga
      7 years ago

      Exactly, how would she feel if he said that

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    • sandnigga
      7 years ago

      Agreed. But she can still try to help the relationship by talking to him.

      Its also the fact though, that he has to be secure enough to know that his relationship is with his girlfriend.

      So I say it's on both of them.
      He has to be secure in the relationship, and she could start talking to him again.

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  • AlcoholMixedWithValerian
    7 years ago

    Its not normal, being avoided is a horrible feeling, sounds like you are a horrible person for avoiding your boyfriend

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Well he feels hurt, so yea, thats why he's being like that.

    You could try talking to your bf more. Try to let him know that he's the one you want to be with. Reassure him pretty much.

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  • Digsbie
    7 years ago

    you should tell him how you feel. its not fair to any of you and its not right to avoid ur bf

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