Is it normal that i'm annoyed with my boyfriend

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We have been dating for a year, and both live alone and know how to cook very well. Is it normal that I get annoyed because:

We spend a LOT more time at my place, and I cook for him a LOT more than he does for me. I go to his place once to twice a fortnight for dinner after work (weekday), and he comes to my place once or twice a week, once during the week and once on Saturday night for dinner, and he stays until Sunday after dinner. He has never invited me over to his place on a weekend, but instead prefers to come to mine.

I put a lot more effort into dinners than he does. I cook a lot of seafood, and slow cooked meals so that we both have leftovers to take for lunch the next day. He only ever makes just enough for dinner.

Am I overreacting? Do you have any advice for me?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago

    Tell him what you told us?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      I wish I could but I've never been good at being direct.
      I'd feel way too uncomfortable

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        8 years ago

        Then be casual about it. Tell him that you'd like to go over to his place for a weekend because you're sick of seeing yours. Tell him you'd like him to cook every couple of days because you're "so done cooking for a freakin' millenia, I'll cook tomorrow". Tone of voice, really. Hard to explain over text, think the kind of tone of voice people use when they say "man, I can't believe how cold it's getting outside!" or something like that.

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      • Ellenna
        8 years ago

        Well, you have a choice: become more honest or put up with what you've got - up to you

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  • ODED_OBLITERATE
    8 years ago

    Oded here, so you find yourself findto be in a little situation. There is an unbalance going on. Both of you got an issue. You need to tone it down a bit, you are being a bit dramatic here, and he does need to pick it up a bit in cooking too as well as the house visits. He is just another human like yourself. You don't think he gets uncomfortable in moments in life too? He is your boyfriend is he not? You should be able to talk with him. Just talk. It will feel good. Trust me. Plus it will build your self confidence and make sorting out issues in the future that much easier thus strengthening the relationship.

    Oded....out

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  • Steven2.0
    8 years ago

    That's your job, honey. Clean the kitchen and cook the food, that's what women are made for.

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  • Tealights
    8 years ago

    It's normal, but not great. He's probably unknowingly taking you for granted, and the only way to solve it is by talking to him about how you feel. Having your own opinion, whether good or bad in a relationship is necessary, and will help the relationship progress if everyone can simply talk everything out.

    Just talk to him about it. Start planning the date nights by making a schedule on the calendar for you two follow or something.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    8 years ago

    I am thinking of making plans with friends for Sunday mornings

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    8 years ago

    Thank you all

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  • Charli.m's_Messy_Period
    8 years ago

    He should pay for groceries and clean the kitchen after dinner.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Since when did a relationship become all about keeping score? If you aren't adult enough to discuss this with him, if it bothers you so much, how can you even call this a relationship?
    I just can't understand why it bothers you so much. If I was in your situation and really cared for someone, I wouldn't give two shits WHERE we were together, as long as we WERE together.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago

      So you wouldn't care if you were being exploited? I don't believe you

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    • TheGypsysFanboy
      8 years ago

      For real. This is why you have a great wife. You are the smartest guy in thr world.

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    • 53739
      8 years ago

      You always give such great advice oh holy one.

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      • thegypsysailor
        8 years ago

        And yet I've been voted down again. Hum.....

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        • Big_Nigga_Payday
          8 years ago

          How did you manage to land a wife, 42 years your junior? Did you swoop in on your boat and charismatically sweep her off her feet right in front of all the other 20 something guys that were hitting on her, or was she extraordinarily desperate ?

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          • thegypsysailor
            8 years ago

            Maybe I'm extraordinarily charismatic? I sure have a lot of fans on here, don't I?

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            • Big_Nigga_Payday
              8 years ago

              I'm legitimately curious though, has no one ever mentioned that the age difference is inappropriate? No one has ever said that to either one of you?

              I know they are saying it behind your back, but I'm just curious if anyone has ever said it to your face?

              What about this child's father? He has no opinion on his daughter dating a geriatric when she is not even 30 yrs old herself?

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