Is it normal that i'm afraid i'll be jealous of her if i have a baby girl?

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On the one hand, I'd love to have a girl because girls are so much fun! But on the other, I know baby girls are adored by their daddies and I have this irrational fear that my DH will ignore and not adore me as much if our baby is a daughter! I know it's crazy, and I know I'll probably be fine if/when the time comes, but I feel like a horrible person so I'm wondering if this is something other women think about as well.

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  • jocyjocy20
    11 years ago

    I think about that sometime but your husband will love you even more because you would be the mother of his child :)

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  • NocturnePonyFan
    11 years ago

    Regardless of if you have a girl or boy, you will always come in second. You will be ignored, just as your husband will be ignored by you. That's what happens when you breed.

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    • jax906
      10 years ago

      I don't think that's true. Think of your child as an extension of you- he is showing you love through your child. Just as you show him love through loving the child. You will see little things he or she does that remind you of him just as he will see things that remind him of you.

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  • lilaithe
    11 years ago

    TheStig, that's fucked up. I hope that's a troll comment. Poster, I don't think you have the right attitude about this. You should love your child just as much as your husband. Don't get caught up on how much attention is being given, just focus on how wonderful it is to bring a beautiful life into the world. Your child will be able to tell if you're not 100% sure you wanted it. I'm the second daughter in my family and my mother is like that. All my life I felt resentment from her. Don't ruin her confidence like my mother ruined mine.

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  • TheStig
    11 years ago

    Don't worry about being jealous of your daughter. When she's about 4 or 5, you'll start becoming jealous of other people's daughters.

    There are a few ways to fix this. If your daughter is the best at everything, you won't have to feel jealous of any other mothers. Make sure she's always top of the class - homework must come before sleep. If any of her friends start ballet or piano, make her practice twice as hard as they do. If she starts riding, make sure her pony is twice as expensive as theirs. Enter her in beauty pageants whenever you can. Get her used to hair salons and mani/pedicures while she's still young. Don't ever let her eat meat, ice cream or chocolate - if she's never tempted by food, she'll never need to diet.

    Remember everything you wanted to achieve in life but never did? It's up to your daughter now. Good luck.

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  • theabider
    11 years ago

    I think it is normal. I have often wondered if I would have this problem, because I have always been envious of good Daddy?daughter relationships period...simply because I never had much of one.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    DH= Dear husband.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    Do you mean jealous of the attention that the baby receives over you? What is a DH?

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