Is it normal that i'm a grown woman but i feel like not talking to my mom?

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To me it seems childish and ridiculous, but I really can't help the feeling of really wanting to ask my Mom not to talk to me for several days. I've noticed that she's always been incapable of standing up to anyone for me ever. It really hurts that she is that way, she never ever takes my side and that hurts me on top of the wound, it's like it's a pain I carry with me since always. :(

I might have finally noticed that I really need to move out.

Please don't insult me or judge me for living with my mother, it's normal where I come from.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    incapable? how so?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Like for example may dad was very verbally abusive, and sometimes even physically menacing, but she has always been indecisive and took her forever to separate. She never stood up to him to defend me.
      She stays away from conflict, kind of shuts down.
      I understand that she doesn't have a strong character, that she'll rather stay quite when people are taking advantage, but not even to defend her own daughter?
      And because she knows I have a stronger character, she is able to defend... my sister... against me. I'm sick of automatically being labeled as the bad guy, as if I never need support.

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      • TrustMeImLying
        8 years ago

        not everyone can handle conflict/confrontation. I used to have a strong disgust for people who were like your mum, but I learned to make my peace with it.

        I understand this affects you because she's your mum, and its a tough pill to swallow when she treats you and your sister unequally, but consider it a compliment: she doesnt stick up for you because she doesnt need to. as you can stand up for yourself. I assure you there is a part of her that respects you for this, I would.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          8 years ago

          I dislike people who avoid confrontation because I feel being like that usually links with ending up being inconsistent with what you believe.
          Like you'll tend to let things pass that are not right, but avoiding issues is much more comfortable. It's sad.

          I don't think I'll get used to that. I value consistency...

          Thanks for your words :)

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