Is it normal that i'll spend a long time wanting something i can't have..

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but when I finally get it, I no longer want it anymore?

For example, I might be jealous of someone because of something they have, and I might feel like this for months on end, yet when I get what I want I don't seem to want it anymore.. I might even end up wanting the next thing I can't have, or have little chances of getting anyways.

Another example being:
Say there was a guy I wanted to be mine, and I've spent years crushing on him, but the day we finally get together and he's mine, I don't feel happy about it.. like, I feel no different and might even eventually start not wanting him anymore. Gosh, that sounds terrible I know..
It's like the novalty of getting what I've wanted has worn off within the first day. I wondered if anyone else had this problem too.

I've kind of rambled a lot so I hope this has made sense.. it's just a problem I've had for a long time and I really hate it because I never know what I actually want anymore.

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  • Faceless
    12 years ago

    Maybe you should want life.

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Nope. I want a huge mansion in LA and if I got that I don't think I wouldn't want it anymore. In fact I would be very happy about it indefinetly... Unless LA splits from the mainland sooner than we expect it to. Or the techtonic plates give way to a huge earthquake that destroys my house. If not than I'm good. Bottom line strive for things that are truly worth something to you and when you get them appriciate them.

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  • Normallyabnormal
    12 years ago

    It still happens but no where near as much as it used to. People just want instant gratification these days.

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  • thecoldhardtruth
    12 years ago

    You're in it for the chase, I'm the same way. I think your unhappy about the guy situation because you went about it the wrong way.

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  • cutegalsly
    12 years ago

    you are not alone....i also feel the same way.id be crazy thinking of a guy and when i have him,i loose intrest and all that.......

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  • cosmictwist
    12 years ago

    A lot of what you've all said really makes me think about it in ways that I haven't. I wasn't expecting this many suggestions haha, so thank you, it helps a lot.

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  • DolphinAngel
    12 years ago

    It's a problem of being a human being... you won't be satisfied because you ever want more! Also if you want a thing so bad you imagine it to be damn great but when you get it you'll be disappointed if it's not that great as you imagined it... it's same for love because you'll find faults on every human/boy and thats why it will destroy your imaginated picture of him! So to sum up you'll never be satisfied in your life!

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  • Audrina
    12 years ago

    I think this is common. A lot of time and energy gets spent on something that ends up being not all that great. I think that this way way of thinking can be positive. It is similar to the drive of financially successful people.

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  • SassyFrassyLassie_old
    12 years ago

    Maybe you're enjoying the challenge of getting what you want far more than thing you're actually after. I think most people are like that, to a certain extent.

    You just have to get better at telling the difference between the two, so that you'll know what's worth going after and what is not.

    I realize that you think you want these things very much at the time you want them, but most people, once they've reached that peak, are able to remind themselves of how lucky they are and continue to feel grateful for what they've acquired.

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  • River710
    12 years ago

    Umm sounds like ADD to me, i have add and im sorry to say that there is not much you can do about it. I try to fight it every day...........

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      This is the second time I see you telling someone they have "ADD." -__- get over yourself.

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      • River710
        12 years ago

        Well maybe alot of people have it, so....... Sue me

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