Is it normal that i live in a fantasy world that gets in the way of my life?

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Ever since I was a little girl, I would always have these "fantasy worlds" that I would retreat to all the time. The fantasies change as I get older, but the amount of time that I spend fantasizing only increases.

I will constantly just sit alone and imagine things in my head. All sorts of things. From imagining that I'm a famous celebrity, that I have superpowers, all that kind of stuff, to imagining that I'm surrounded by people that are my friends, or a boyfriend, even sexual fantasies. But I don't just imagine it, it's like I live it. I will talk into thin air and imagine that I'm talking to the people in my fantasy. I will act our scenarios and it feels so real.

What tends to happen to me a lot is that I'll get obsessed with a certain person. Sometimes it's people that I know, but usually it's a celebrity. Then I'll be thinking about them all the time, and imagine our life together. I'll constantly pretend like we're together and I'll just talk to them and constantly look at pictures of them. I have a hard time sleeping at night because I'm just thinking about this person and I feel like I'm in love. And I'll imagine him proposing to me, having arguments, and just the regular parts of a relationship. And sometimes I'll wake up and I'll be looking for that person because I feel like they should be there but then reality kicks in and I realize that it was just in my head and they aren't really here.

It gets to the point that I can't concentrate at work because I'm always daydreaming. I'm a grown adult, I don't understand why this happens to me. Sometimes it's hard to tell what's reality and what's my fantasy because it seems so real. I'm scared that I'm losing touch with reality and going crazy but I feel like I can't survive without my fantasy world because it is my only escape from this lonely and uneventful life that I lead.

What is going on with me and what can I do?

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  • Parky_Parker
    9 years ago

    I fantasize here and there similarly to how you described. However, my day dreaming doesn't interfere with my professional life. These fantasies are okay when you are on your own(personal) time. But when this sort of thing starts to interfere with your work and REALITY, you need to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation you've created. If it's gotten to the point where you can't handle your imagination, you might need to talk to a psychiatrist.

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  • Shimmers
    9 years ago

    Let me rephrase what you said in my own words and tell me if this is what you're saying:
    People believe what I say and It makes me believe it's real too?
    If that's what you're trying to say, then me and you are both twins.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      No, people don't believe what I say because I don't tell anyone about it. It's all in my head and I would never want anyone to know about what goes on in there...

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      • Shimmers
        9 years ago

        Then you're normal.

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  • JBN
    9 years ago

    enjoy it. Real life is relatively boring and limted.

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  • squirrelgirl
    9 years ago

    I'm actually impressed and a little jealous that you can delve so deeply into your imaginary world as an adult. I used to have a very intense imagination as a child, but the intensity has been gradually fading as I have gotten older. It actually takes effort for me to use my imagination these days, as opposed to when I was a child and it would happen so easily and spontaneously. I worry that I will eventually lose my ability to daydream altogether.

    Anyway, I would love to be in your position - I miss the days of getting lost in my imagination for hours. Something does concern me though, and that is that you said that you sometimes have trouble distinguishing reality from fantasy and that it interferes with your job. Those can be signs that maybe your imagination is getting hard to control. If it continues to get worse, then t wouldn't hurt to get a psychologist's opinion.

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  • seekelp
    9 years ago

    Reality sucks anyways.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Your life sounds boring. If you stop day dreaming it will get even more boring. But if you want to stop, google up, "How to stop daydreaming."

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    I live in my own world too. It's perfectly normal as long as you realize it's real.

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