Is it normal that i like my teacher and think she likes me back?

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I graduated from high school about a month ago, but I can't stop thinking about my English teacher. I came to the conclusion that she's basically the perfect woman - beautiful, intelligent, really nice, loves to laugh, AND she's not that much older than me (I'm 18, I think she's in her late 20s or early 30s).

Now, I'm not an attractive guy by any stretch (no girl my age has ever shown any interest in me), but I think my teacher might like me. I had her as my creative writing teacher and she always gave my writing really high praise. She gave me a perfect score on several different things I wrote (something she said she rarely does), she told me that she wants a signed copy of the first novel I publish, she even said in front of the class that she thought my writing was better than everyone else's and that I almost had an unfair advantage being so naturally talented. I'm not making this up!

Whenever we would meet outside of class to discuss my writing, she would always laugh really hard at every joke I made and get really excited and enthusiastic whenever I came up with an idea, even if it was one she basically gave me. She also told me in private once that she thought I was a genius and a great writer and that I'd go on to do great things. Unfortunately, I'm done with high school and don't have her as my teacher anymore, but I still haven't given up hope. Whenever she passed me in the hallway, she didn't say hi to me like most teachers - instead, she would smile really widely and start giggling whenever she saw me and I would do the same back - we both barely mumbled out hi's.

Ever since I left school, she's been haunting me. I wonder if, now that I'm 18 and no longer a student at her school, could I legally pursue a relationship with her or would it still be against the rules. How old would I have to be for it to be okay? Also, I found out that she's married, so I'd have to wait until that ends, then I might have a better chance than ever 'cause I'd be older and she'd maybe lower her standards? I don't know. I just need advice! Do you think my teacher likes me and do you think I should try to date her? Thanks for reading and responding!!!

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  • Incomplet
    8 years ago

    She's married. Don't hold your breath.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    You're not going to know unless you check this out, which I think would be OK now she's no longer your teacher. The fact that she's married is another different issue.

    How about asking if you can meet up for coffee to discuss your latest writing effort? Keep it cool til you can assess you she feels about you, but remember that teachers often have favourite pupils but it doesn't mean anything sexual

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    "so I'd have to wait until that ends"

    I lol'd. you mention that no girl your age has ever shown any interest in you. so imagine how much you would gravitate towards a female that would. like you have towards your teacher

    think about it from her angle too. majority of the students that a teacher comes across are the default type: little interest/enthusiasm, socially aloof, average talent. so it must be exciting/refreshing for her to have a student like you who stands out in every way.

    I'm not undermining the value of her or the connection you have with her. I'm sure she's as cool as you say she is. but you should be aware that what you feel for her is platonic. and did you know where the phrase platonic love came from? Plato. he coined it so he could describe the nonsexual love/admiration between... wait for it... him and his students. a lot of young students -- hell a lot of adults nowadays misunderstand/mislabel this feeling.

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago

    She's married, leave her alone. Have some respect.

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  • Lonely2
    8 years ago

    It sounds like love

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  • Prevalence
    8 years ago

    maybe she pities you?

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  • thefuckup
    8 years ago

    The good news are that you are really good at writing the bad news are that you kind of an idiot for believing that she likes you and for thinking to hit on her.

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  • donteatstuffoffthesidewalk
    8 years ago

    is her name pamela smart?

    if not then yall should look up that name

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    If she's happily married you can be pretty sure you are wasting your time.

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  • Couman
    8 years ago

    As far as the law goes, that would depend on where you live. I think a few places have laws against sex with ex-students, but most don't. You'd have to check that out for your location specifically. It's also possible she could lose her job over it, even if it's not actually illegal.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    I've worshipped one of my college professors like this... Really the only thing to do is deflect the feelings into something more benign, like admiration. I don't want to be harsh but the chances of you getting together sound a little low. I understand exactly where you're coming from, however.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You sound just like all the teen girls in love with their teachers.
    It ain't natural. Go find someone you have things in common with. This teacher isn't going want to hang out with an 18 year old kid. Wait ten years and if you still feel the same way, go for it.

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