Is it normal that i like my bestfriend whos girlfriend is also my best friend?

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I have been close friends with this guy for about two years now. We met his girlfriend about six months ago from a school program that we all do. We quickly all became close (plus one other girl). I consider her my very best friend as well as the guy too. However, I cannot help but think "why her and not me?" he has known me longer and even admitted that he had feelings for me in the past. I still sometimes feel feelings for him (which I feel extremely guilty about). Sometimes I just get this crazy butterflies if he accidentally touches my hand or we hug...And what's even worse is I cannot confide in my friend about this.

Is this normal for me to feeling this way? I'm not going to act on anything of course, but it just seems odd that we have been friends for two years and these feelings (though less now, by my forcing) still seem to happen? Is it normal that I feel cheated/jealous since I've known him longer? I just feel so jealous sometimes when they hang out without inviting me or our other close friend. sometimes when I see them holding hands or doing googly-eyes at each other I just want to break down and cry, yet other times I feel happy for them. I am so wishy washy.

The funny thing about it is I have not been feeling these feelings again until recently. I liked him when we first met but when they first got together I thought they were cute and I was so happy for them. But within the last month or so they have been coming back. It is starting to take a toll on our friendship as he is asking why am I so distant/irritable with him lately. I don't want to be this way.

Sorry for the essay. Thank you, friends!

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  • curiouskate101
    11 years ago

    dont you dare do that to your bestfriend! it just happened if it was meant to be you it would have been. im not saying your planning on stealing your BESTFRIENDS boyfriend but how would you feel if she did that to you? youd feel like you got stabbed in the heart a million times then someone ripped it out and through it in the ocean where it fell in a hot bowl of lava. lol you get what im trying to say here. youd feel betrayed, backstabbed and broken. dont do that to her. you need to try to move on so no one gets hurt

    i know why you would feel that way though cuz you known him longer.. word of advice. when you have a guy friend even if you have the tinyest smallest feelings for him tell your friend hes off limits. just in case thoses feelings grow. make sure you know how you feel about him before you let your friend in on it.

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  • auburnsin
    11 years ago

    Wow! I just watched this movie!
    " My Bestfriends Wedding "
    Starring Juilia Roberts.
    I think it was a late 90's film or early 2000.
    You should view it and think about your situation.
    Best of Luck and Enjoy!

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  • Gbm1
    11 years ago

    You cant help who you fall for unfortunatly. Ive fell for some right idiots in the past and i look back and think why

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    She's hotter.

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