Is it normal that i keep getting rejected?

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Hi everyone, I will be very honest here..

I am a really nice guy. I constantly keep getting compliments about the way I look and my smile. I am tall, but I am somewhat skinny.

I have very good friends who I'm very tight with. I do know a lot of girls, but none are really close. My friends tell me that girls are interested in me, but I never get that vibe at all. Usually the older girls who are older than me by 6 or 8 years get attracted to me at first, but then I can't pinpoint why they lose interest.

I'm 20 years old, and I've had a couple of relationships, one of them felt unreal because of how many guys wanted her, but until this day I don't think I can get someone as attractive as her.. The only reason we broke up is because she moved to another city, and after that, I've struggled, HARD.

I keep getting rejected most of the time... It's usually, "I'm not really looking for a relationship right now," or "There's someone I like."

I mean what could be so bad about a guy like me? People seldom find me rude, and I'm nice to everyone.

Do girls think I'm weak because I'm a very nice guy?? Or what is it exactly?? I really can't say so much about myself.. I mean should I ask a friend of mine who's a girl and tell her to be very honest with me?

I do get nervous around girls sometimes, and sometimes I overthink things.. When I'm with a girl I usually can't deal with awkward situations. When those situations happen, I'd take 3 minutes to think about how awkward it's been, and I'm sure they'd realize. Okay I'm writing too much as I keep remembering significant points. Also, I believe I have a great sense of humour.. and I'm a very funny guy to be drunk with.. My best convos with girls are when I go drinking..

Girls, please help a guy like me :)
I actually think a lot of people would be surprised that I struggle.... Some people expect a lot more of me on a social level, which I obviously struggle with. :)

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  • Lost4Thought
    12 years ago

    I read your story. So women like bad boys. Ya know with tattoos and been in jail. Well i got married to one and i wish i didn't. My best friend is like you and he is 27 years old. The truth is he became a bad boy and got all these women that were freaks and he wasn't going for it. So he became himself again. A funny,caring, loving, handsome guy. It took him a year to finally find his true love. Don't go bad stay yourself, be patient and soon you will find her. There's nothing wrong with you at all. Just be yourself and soon she will come. Good luck.

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    Your problem. Second segment, first line.

    You should google "nice guys finish last" and read why nice guys gets shitted on. Then you'll understand why it's hard to date girls our age. But here's a tip. Aim for women for around 30-32. Or search long and hard.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Sounds like you've been struck with good friend syndrome

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  • TyLee
    12 years ago

    Nice guys do not finish last. Girls love nice guys. The reason that the bad guys get with more girls is bc they lie and pretend to be nice at first. Anyway you sound just like my ex. He had the same story and thought he was so great and nice but he sucked. I would love to tell him why he has no luck with girls! I'm not saying that you are really a bad guy or that you suck but maybe you are overlooking things or maybe you need more self confidence. Confidence is sexy. Being a leader not a follower. My ex would desperately try too hard to be cool and it was a huge turnoff. You sound very nice. Good luck!

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    Have no problem*

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  • chaosdragoon1
    12 years ago

    I'm similar to you, but when I'm drunk I have problem getting women. It kind of pisses me off in a funny way. Lol

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