Is it normal that i just don't have the desire for a relationship or a family?

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I'm 21 and I see everyone around me in a relationship and thinking of having kids later in life. I feel I must be asexual because I've never had the desire to have a bf. I have wondered what it would be like and I feel it just wouldn't make me happy. I should be looking towards the future or at least dating by now. I have felt love before but I think I was emotionally attached to someone end it wasnt even a guy. I know im not gay or bi but idk why I don't develop feelings very easy. I strongly believe I'll never be in love because I don't have a sexual desire within. I currently am fond of this guy but I don't know if I'd want a relationship with him. He likes me a lot and I have thought about it but what if we kissed and it felt weird or I didn't like it? Iv only ever had one kiss and was very unenjoyable. is it normal I'm like this?

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Based on 39 votes (31 yes)
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  • unionclocks
    8 years ago

    U know the difference between sexual/romantic orientation right?
    Ur situation is perfectly fine!!!

    Its actually somewhat similar to how i feel about relationships with others (im asexual & i hate kids so i guess thats a bonus ahah). So if you don't feel sexual attraction to someone...so what. Sex isnt the basis that relationships should be built on. But what is...is romantic orientation.

    Now you can be asexual and heteroromantic, for example, meaning you dont want sex but want a romantic relationship with someone. Wanting to be around them, sharing a bond or uhh...something like that. Many asexuals have relationships and just...don't have sex, and it rarely inhibits the people in that relationship.

    Your sexual orientation - though, if you DO have romantic feelings for this guy you'd have to talk to him about not wanting sex shoudl you ever initiate a relationship - shouldn't be a limiting factor.

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    I definitely have the desire for a partner but not a desire for children. You should do what makes you happy.

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  • helpful_demon
    7 years ago

    absolutely normal! there's nothing wrong with anything you wrote here, and congrats to you to taking steps towards figuring yourself out and accepting yourself, friend! :)

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  • lelouch82
    8 years ago

    Totally normal, I don't want to be in a relationship nor get married and have kids, doesn't mean that I don't like women nor get turned off by them!

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  • Unimportant
    8 years ago

    High five!

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    My relationship status doesn't define me. ☆
    :^)

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    You don't have to have sex to be in a successful romantic relationship.

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago

    Why do you feel that your self worth can only truly be defined by the presence of a partner?

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