Is it normal that i haven't changed much since my last post 7 years ago?

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My last post was when I was 19, I'm 26 now. My last post was the following:

"Well I'm 19 and about to be 20 in a couple of months and Ive only had two girlfriends ever. My first girlfriend wouldn't even kiss me, we kissed once on our one month anniversary then she dumped me a couple days later. My second girlfriend lasted just as long but we never really fell for each other. So I am still a virgin (actually I am the only virgin I know). But now I realize I don't even want a girlfriend or sex really ever. I think I'm too anti-social and too shy to even try to get both so I don't bother with trying anymore. I would rather sit and play video games than to have sex and/or a relationship. I also have never been drunk and I have never been high. Is this normal for people my age?"

What's changed since then is that I like to drink on occasion and get drunk rarely. I still haven't had any relationships and I still have not had sex and have had zero physical contact with anyone, I mean absolutely nothing. I prefer to be alone at most times and I even got a job where I'm mostly alone, I'm less into video games though. I live by myself and thrive on being alone, sometimes I'm unhappy about it but when I think about putting my self out there I feel fine being by myself.

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  • AB1234
    7 years ago

    Dude! If you like being alone, then you're totally fine. Please don't let our hyper-social (appearing) culture mislead you. Do what makes you happy, from among the things you can do that don't hurt others.

    As for not liking or wanting sex, that's also perfectly fine. Maybe you're asexual? Whatever you may be, that's for you to decide, and it's no one else's business. Again, so long as you're happy, that's what counts.

    I have a lot of friends, but I stopped dating this year. Some guys are just very, very possessive and clingy. I know, some girls are, too. But I'm off sex for a while. And I like being alone when I can. I'm still in school so am always with other people. So I envy you your solitude.

    I'll tell you what. In 7 years when I'm 26 I'll come back and post an update too!

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    You could try becoming more social. I mean either way it's your choice.

    But trying to become more social could possibly make you more happier. You gotta force yourself to do it, even if you dont want to, because in the end it's good for you to try :)

    But some people are content being alone, so your choice.

    And it's fine your a virgin, I actually look at virginity like it's gold. Some people have negative views on it, because they're insecure themselves, but having virginity is something special.
    Something you wanna save for someone you love.

    Not just dish it out to a .50 cent hooker lol

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    • Ellenna
      7 years ago

      What's so special about having had no sexual experience? Virginity is a ridiculous concept to value

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      • sandnigga
        7 years ago

        No it's not. Virginity is special. Save it for someone you love.

        Of course after your virginity I can see why you might not care for it anymore lol

        But even after virginity I will find it special. It's always something worth saving.

        Of course its not the most important thing in the world though.

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        • Ellenna
          7 years ago

          So is both male and female virginity special to you? And why?

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          • sandnigga
            7 years ago

            Thats the problem with people. They dont find virginity special. They treat it as something unspecial, which in my mind, only means insecurity with a good amount of people.

            They think if you havent lost your virginity people will call you a loser or pick on you. And thats why you have some insecure people try to lose their virginity as fast as possible, so they can somehow think they're in a special club of non-virgins lol

            It's fking stupid. Virginity shouldnt be looked at as something you just waste, WHEN you only get ONE time to lose it!

            Thats like having ONE bar of gold, and just giving it away to the first person you see. If more people were secure with themselves, then I guarentee virginity wouldnt be looked at as something you need to get rid of lol

            People shouldnt want to be sheep. People should want to make their own decisions and not GIVE A FK what other people think.

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            • Ellenna
              7 years ago

              You're still not explaining why virginity is so special! There are lots of areas of inexperience we only get one time to lose, what is the big deal?

              I do totally agree with your last sentence.

              You do realise the reason why virginity in women was so prized? Because it meant she couldn't
              have been impregnated by anyone else before the first man who owned and fucked her: it's about ownership of women and children, not special at all. Virginity in men has never been prized as far as I know, although you seem to do so.

              If what you're saying is that it'd be a good idea for people to not thoughtlessly have sex for the first time with someone they have no reason to trust, that's a different issue entirely and has nothing to do with "losing" one's virginity and surely doesn't just apply to the first time one has sex.

              Yeah, I'm thinking now I should've asked you to give your definition of virginity: would two women who've never had sex before have sex with each other, would they each be losing her virginity? If a man and a woman have sex and it's her first time but her physical virginity isn't actually broken, is she still a virgin?

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          • sandnigga
            7 years ago

            Yea both is special, because in these days when people are willing to easily give away their garbage virginity for practically nothing, you can come to appreciate it as something you dont just throw away on anybody.

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            • Ellenna
              7 years ago

              How do you give away lack of sexual experience and in the case of some women, a small piece of tissue partially blocking the vagina?

              And how can some virginities be "garbage" and others "special"?

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          • sandnigga
            7 years ago

            Like I said, I agree that its not the most important thing, but it is nice.

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            • Ellenna
              7 years ago

              I honestly cannot see what is nice about it

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    • AB1234
      7 years ago

      Hey! 50-cent hookers need love, too!

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      • sandnigga
        7 years ago

        not from virgins though ;)

        a hooker taking a guy's virginity just seems cheap to me

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