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Is it normal that I have these standards when it comes to finding a guy?
- No skinny jeans
-has to be in some type of school or in college (I'm 18)
-confident (I don't like insecure guys relationship wise, no offense)
-Emotionally strong
-Good Humor
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You appear to have good standards. Of course, some of these will not be fulfilled as everyone has a little different personality and mannerisms. I think it's a good guide as long as you are willing to compromise in certain areas. (You will have to be the judge on these areas of compromise.) Good luck.
Well I guess all the working class and military guys are an automatic no for you? I can definitely agree on the skinny jeans standard though. Anytime I see a guy wearing skinny jeans I automatically think he is probably an immature douche whether I like to think that thought or not.
I have nothing against the military guys. Haha they are MEN! It's just that I have separation anxiety :'(
Why does the guy HAVE to be in college? What is it about him being in college that is so important to you?
In America we need money to survive. I will have a good job so he should to. College is important to me. If a have kids with a guy I want my son to know that his parents went to college. We are supposed to be role models.
I guess that is good. Lets hope in the future college graduates will actually be able to get a job that matches their degree after graduation because right now if you have not secured a good internship somewhere, most graduates are probably going to be flipping burgers or worse because so very few people are hiring right now.
One thing that confuses me as a guy is if I get a girls number and I keep messaging her, making all the effort and she is giving me mixed signals do I keep on messaging her? Because the insecure part of me would say to stop and take the hint that she doesn't want me, but girls don't like insecurity so really I should persist, confident that I'll win her over.
But then you run the risk of being too keen and not taking the hint she no longer wants you to message her. So you kind of have to be a little insecure right?
I'm really at a loss to understand what to do when faced in situations like this, which I guess, ironically, makes me insecure.
Because no two girls are the same, there's no single answer. It all depends on the girl you're after. If someone actually wrote a book on women, it would be very unrealistic. There's no "men and women." Just people. And all people are different.
When she starts sending mixed signals just be straight up and ask her if she is feeling you or not
These standards seem pretty normal... But also "Typical".. And if he is older & isn't in school then he should have a productive job or aspiring goals of some sort..
So they can't have graduated, or bbe in military, they have to be in school?
I think all of those standards are perfectly reasonable. They're the bare minimum for a lot of people.
I don't understand how you would even be questioning if this is normal or not #confused
You are young, this will change.
But good self-confidence is a good indicator that someone is pleased with the direction their life is going.
Not to be confused with shy, sort of quiet, bashful. These people may not particularly feel insecure (like a loser), but don't particularly like to be the center of attention are round strangers.
Skinny jeans never looked comfortable to me--- so you'll probably find plenty of guys that 1) like leg room or 2) just simply don't have legs that can fit in skinny jeans.
These are all good qualities for the most part. It's normal and happy hunting ;-)
So no emotionally strong, good humored, confident hipster students hey haha
Fair enough
I still fail to see how skinny jeans are unattractive but to each his (or in this case her) own.
Those are very reasonable standards. Congrats. You don't want the first random douche that thinks he is cool, or the wuss that can't do shit with his life.
You basically want a serious man that you can rely on.
I respect that.
people are not made in molds we are all unique, you will never find some one who reaches all your standards.