Is it normal that i have spent my whole life being told how stupid i am?

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For my entire life i have been told how stupid i am by pretty much everyone. My mom favors my sister while hardly paying attention to me while saying that i 'dont care about school' since i dont get very good grades (B's and C's). My dad seems nice at times but yells at me and still treats me like i am 7, and everyone else treats me like i dont know anything.

In addition to that, i have a speech disorder, am asocial and i probably also have some degree of depression although i have never been formally diagnosed with it.

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    I have never heard a person I consider to be intelligent call another person stupid. It is an insult people use when they are insecure about their own level of intelligence. Don't listen to other people.

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    • DerHaifisch
      7 years ago

      Rayb12, you should get an award for that statement!

      I had a long reply ready talking about how we all limit ourselves to reaching a tiny fraction of our potential due to imagining boundaries to what we "can understand". (I'll never get physics/electricity, I'll never will. And thanks to that conviction, I'll never will indeed) it's only human to do so, as it helps us spending more time on what is faster to learn combined with what is more interesting to understand.

      Alas, people around you, certainly while growing up, pose a great danger to impose those barriers where there shouldn't be at all. Certainly if they indeed "tell you how stupid I am". (From now on, forbid yourself from formulating that in those words.. They tell you how stupid they think you are, not how stupid you are. Sounds childish, but you're not even gong to allow that negative crap to even remotely affect you from now on. Take action today, decide that you'll flip the switch and simply ignore those insults because they have zero value. Think about it: if they don't value your thoughts, no matter how sincere and true they are, why would you value those statements, clearly made without too much thought or objectiveness and only serve to limit you or depress you. )

      Still have much to say about all that, but it's already a huge reply.

      Just one more thing: asocial and depressed, well, everybody subject to that constant dissing will feel like that. Again, decide that from now on the negativism shall be ignored as it is based on nothing! The rest will have better chances of solving itself once you switch the button from record to mute regarding those negative remarks..

      And regarding the speech disorder. Not only could that be also a direct effect of the negativism, but anyways. Did you ever hear about Demostenes? One of the top orators and public speakers in ancient athens? Guess what he had in common with you ;-)

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      • rayb12
        7 years ago

        https://www.coursera.org/learn/how-things-work
        https://www.coursera.org/specializations/power-electronics

        thanks

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  • Jacob_Zuma_783
    7 years ago

    Dysfunctional family; lack of assertion on your part. Introverted types, unless they make an effort to appear smart but quiet, are usually the objects of ridicule.

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    Don't listen to those people. Unfortunately, sometimes the people closest to us can say nasty things. Having a speech impediment does not make a person stupid and it is something that can be overcome.
    Especially if the impediment is intermittent. We all have different talents and abilities. Find and develop yours. Work at casting off any negative beliefs you may have acquired along the way and replace these with positive affirmations. It might feel strange at first but persist and you will get there. Basically, you have to believe in yourself even if those around you do not. There are no shortcuts but a positive attitude is a good first step. Good luck.

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  • MauriceLikesChicks1015
    7 years ago

    The people that have told you how "stupid you are" should be ashamed because they are the people that are really missing out on the positivity of life so don't let yourself done over some idiot that calls you that. Try not to let your guard down meaning never give up in life because most people that have made mistakes in their past work hard to achieve a goal or several goals to accomplish in their life. Speak to your parents and let them know how you feel on how everybody treats you and open up to them more if you can.

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  • Mul1
    7 years ago

    I doubt you're antisocial, you probably meant asocial.
    I'm guessing you're still in high school, so it'd be hard for anyone to tell if you're "stupid" since you're still a kid. Bs and Cs would indicate your learning comprehension is at least average (assuming you aren't in remedial classes).
    Do you think you're stupid? Why not try to prove "everyone" wrong?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago

      yeah, asocial seems like a better word to use.

      As for my grades hovering around B's and C's, that wouldnt be so bad if i wasnt going to a high achieving school

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      • Mul1
        7 years ago

        Underachieving in school doesn't necessarily mean you're stupid, though.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          7 years ago

          I somewhat agree. It does however mostly dictate your chances of becoming successful in life.

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          • McBean
            7 years ago

            Take a deep breath, my friend. Exhale slowly and listen up. This is your coach talking.

            1. You write well. Verbal aptitude is more important than numerical and abstract.

            2. Your family environment fosters low self esteem for everybody. This is a serious detriment. But you can beat the stigma with points 3, 4, and 5.

            3. Get into sports. Winning doesn't matter. Wanting to win does. You can win.

            4. Talk to a school counselor about how to put armor around your heart so that your family doesn't make you feel so bad.

            5. Learning effective study skills will get you farther than intelligence will. There are methods for studying, Like OK4R, etc. Google it up.

            6. Your family may be shit heads, but we like you. You took the initiative to write this post. You ARE getting traction in the game of life, and you are showing us that deep within yourself you have the heart of a champion. Take another deep breath. Keep the faith.

            7. :-)

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          • Mul1
            7 years ago

            Your high school performance dictates your chances of becoming successful? I doubt it.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              7 years ago

              But it is much harder to get a decent job without doing good in highschool.

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  • sillygirl77
    7 years ago

    It sounds painful to have been told that your whole life and it's not normal to be spoken to that way :(.

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